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  • January 31, 2019 at 12:50 pm #277927
    Reina
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    I realized that everyone i cut ties with or outgrew or just drifted apart from either never comes back and if they do it’s obviously never the same and we end up drifting apart again

    should I just keep people from the past in the past and never think of them again? I always find myself thinking of people i used to be close with all the time

    January 31, 2019 at 4:38 pm #277961
    Mark
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    Reina,

    Having memories with those you were close to is a good thing as part of re-creating that feeling of warmth, connection and joy.  Everything is temporary and the Buddhist Noble Truth is that clinging causes suffering.  If you are not holding onto the past then as I said, it’s a good thing to have such fond memories.

    Mark

    February 1, 2019 at 12:02 pm #278109
    Chelsea
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    I think there’s a lot to be gained by reflecting on your past memories with people. Sometimes you’ll learn new lessons, and other times you’ll simply be reminded why they’re no longer a part of your present.

     

    Do you feel like reminiscing on people from your past is negatively affecting you?

    February 1, 2019 at 12:56 pm #278115
    Reina
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    I often feel sad that theyre no longer a part of my life even though i know its for the better

    February 1, 2019 at 3:40 pm #278135
    Nick
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    They are not part of your life but not because of you or anything you did. Life is a series of hellos and goodbyes. Sounds as though you have a void that needs to be filled.

    February 1, 2019 at 3:48 pm #278137
    Nick
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    P.S I lost touch with my best friend, we were friends since the age of four. We reconnected after fifteen years, our friendship is stronger than ever, of course it’s not the same but if anything our friendship is more authentic than it ever was so it’s not always the case that you would drift apart again.

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