Pathofpeace,

Making babies isn’t exactly an easy science, especially nowadays with our societies, environments, lifestyles etc. Of course your mother is looking forward to being a grandmother, it probably has more to do with the fact that she currently feels like she could be achieving more, so naturally raising children would be where she can exert her effort. However, its your choice, or not so much that you can control your wife getting pregnant, but you can certainly keep having a crack and stacking the odds in your favor.

Also, your mother probably has more an old school idea (just assuming) about what a ‘family’ constitutes. However, the past is not the present and as such times have changed. It has always been hard to have children and raise them, but the world was never this uncertain. We have news at our finger tips, we know more now than ever before.

How can I keep people from trying to get into my personal life and let me handle my own?

Basically, deflect such questions as best as you can. Chock it down to the fact that other people want the best for you, and thus want you to have a child because apparently you will be happier. You will conform to the already established order of things. If you have to, make your opinion known, tell people what you really think. No need to be aggressive about it. If they continue to bring it up, then just don’t answer them.

hope this helps
Sincerely,
Matty