Hi Sapna,

Sorry that you’re feeling so much pain and sadness. Not sure I can say I have any great advice except that “This too shall pass” and that this is an excellent time to look into yourself for transformation. One of the ancient scriptures that has always helped me (can’t believe I haven’t use this yet in my suffering now!!! Will do immediately!) is the 8 Versus of Training the Mind. You can find them all over the internet but HH the Dalai Lama has it on his website with a little bit of wisdom added in.

If you’re into Vipassana meditation, I really find S.N. Goenka’s courses invaluable. They are all over the world, but you will need 10 days and must be silent the entire time. It is not easy, but it’s worth it! Here’s the website so you can check it out: http://www.dhamma.org/. The column on the right has links to courses all over the world. Check it out!

don’t worry about how long the healing process is taking or what others say. You have to nurture your heart and let it all unfold naturally. But doing a meditation course can surely help! Good luck!

hi., happy birthday in advance…. just a suggestion…. you can spend(celebrate) your birthday with someone to whom you are close to right now….(colleague from work/ college; friend, etc..) or you can do something kind towards someone whom you don’t know till now… who needs it.. like may be animals in a shelter, children/ elderly in …. if you enquire in your neighbourhood,there will certainly be someone who would readily appreciate this… or you can make someone in your own inner circle(i mean family and close friends… to be safe) happy just by being with them….. i think doing something good for this world and our fellow beings on your birthday would be more better and joyful than remembering previous days, or just sitting and meditating… i believe.. when you do something good selflessly( i mean without expecting any return), that happiness and contentment you receive cannot be obtained by any meditation or relationship…
my birthday is coming this week too… m single…. have always been that way… so yes, i may not exactly understand how u r feeling now… but i guess i can emphathize…
p.s: happy birthday once again…. be happy… always…

hi Sapnap,

I can understand depth of sorrows but if you look to your past you can never concentrate on your present.It is offently happen that bcoz of our past we can not concentrate on our present pls it is my request you to that just open your eyes and look around you lots of happiness is waiting for you look so many peoples suggesting you that means you are very precious person and wht we need more if people respect our sorrows and understand us.

So dont be sad and enjoy your birthday.

Happy Birthday in Advance.

Thanks.

Hi Sapna,

Welcome,one more suggestion i want to give you that just think one thing that how you celebrated your birthday before someone came in your life?think about that and celebrate with same happiness before and i think the best way of celebration of birthday is by distributing happiness to people who really need it,I mean you can celebrate your b’day with Orphans those who don;t know even about wht is the valueof love of someone?ok, if you celebrate with them you and they both get good happiness and i think happiness is the best thing to gift ok hope this will also help you.

Thanks.
Dharmesh Radadiya.