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  • August 19, 2020 at 8:37 am #365114
    Anonymous
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    Dear WanderlustKitten:

    I enjoyed your writing, it was a pleasure, a refreshing experience to read your story here, thank you! Interesting, I was feeling kind of down just before I read your post and reading your skillful, talented writing refreshed me and I feel better.

    The details of your story: you are 30, unemployed, no money, in debt, living in a city you hate, with roommates you despise, in abusive situation of constant stress, barely sleeping, nothing to do, and nowhere to go. You want to tell a story for others to read and be touched, inspired and changed because of the story you tell, but when you sit down to write, you are  not inspired or motivated.

    You have OCD, scared of germs, and driving to California- which clearly you considered- would be a death wish, you wrote. (California is leading the U.S., with more than 640 thousand coronavirus cases, and more than 11.5 thousand coronavirus deaths so far, the great majority of cases and deaths being in Los Angeles County, according to Worldometer).

    You were miserable in the past, been frustrated with your living situation for about 10 years, but you “still saw a purpose to life”.But now, you don’t see a purpose (“struggling to find any point in doing anything.. can’t exactly see why anyone does anything at all… It’s all meaningless anyway.. What does life mean at all?”).

    You asked: “Is there any way to stop  thinking in my self in circles about how pointless everything ultimately is or.. what exactly am I supposed to do?”

    My answer: clearly, you need a purpose that will give your life a meaning. Viktor E. Frankl in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, wrote: “There is much wisdom in the words of Nietzsche: ‘He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how'”, and “In some ways, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning”.

    Here is a quote from the book that fits your situation very well: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”.

    Nietzsche wrote something that fits your writing situation, in my mind (replace writing with dancing, and music with inspiration or motivation to write): “And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music”.

    My suggestion: quit societal expectations and standards, find your own, very personal purpose and meaning. If you find none, create one that you choose as your own.

    anita

     

     

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    August 21, 2020 at 11:08 am #365273
    Peggy
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    Hello Wanderlustkitten,

    I am picking up from your post that you don’t feel as if you have any control over your life.  Some of this stems from the situation we are all in with regard to this blessed Coronavirus.  Also, you are scared of death and you don’t think there is any point to doing anything.  The first thing you need to do is to change your self talk.

    The point to life is love.  Love glorious love.  Beginning, middle and end.  You love to write.  This may sound very obvious but you have to write it before you can share it.  You want to inspire people, create change in others and touch them in some way.  What is stopping you?  The only person that can stop you from doing this is yourself.  Who cares if you make it as a writer?  You do.  Who cares if you make it as a waitress, shop assistant, ticket collector?  This is not the point.  You have been given your own unique mix of talents, character traits, preferences and so on.  You are here to make the most of what has been bestowed upon you as a birthright.  By the way, you are not necessarily going to know if you have touched or inspired someone.  You are not going to meet with every person that reads your work.

    Have you ever heard that if you change your thoughts, you change your life.  This is true.  You need to think far more positively than your post suggests you have been doing.  As long as you keep replaying your problems, you will not be able to find the solutions to those problems.  Deal with one thing at once.  If noise keeps you awake at night, invest in some earplugs.  If you are stressed, play relaxation music particularly at bedtime.  You can find plenty online which is free.  Pay particular attention to your breathing ensuring that you breathe into the base of your lungs.  Guided relaxation may help you with this.

    Use writing as your therapy.  Write about this situation that you are in.  Paint the picture with your words.  Your creativity center exists just below your navel.  Breathe the color orange into that point.  Revitalize yourself.

    Finally, learn to live in the NOW and stop worrying about what might happen when you are dead.  You will take with you all that you have achieved on Earth.  Your spirit will survive.  Death is just another state of change.  Live your life with courage, strength and power and achieve your inspirational dream.

    I hope you read this and that it helps you take life in both hands and live it to the full.

    Wishing you the best of everything.

    Peggy

     

     

     

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