I went through the same thing with my ex. He did tell me he was in love with me, but always said he didn’t know if he could give me what I wanted which was a future with him.i would leave him and he would always come back to me after a year had gone by. But then we would repeat the same dance again. Well five years later it’s over again. Hopefully for good because this time he was seeing another woman and I guess he chose her over me. This time when I left I felt completely satisfied that I put in my very best but it just wasn’t meant to be. It’s been 4 months now. I am doing so much better. He wanted to remain friends but I refused because “friends” don’t do such to “friends” How could he be telling me he loved me, sleep in the same bed with me while messing around with someone else? Also the bigger issue was that I couldn’t trust him. I dont want to go into too much detail but he lied to my face about something else after the breakup and I couldn’t believe he could be that blatant. He didn’t know I knew he was lying. So cheating + lying = betrayal. I don’t want to be friends with someone like that.
So what I learnt from my five year relationship with him is if a guy does not see a future with you in most cases hanging around is not going to change his mind. Be true to yourself and give all your love and you to someone who not only wants it but also deserves it.