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  • January 5, 2017 at 2:08 am #124600
    Velandra
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    I have had a friend that I had for many years. There has been a deep connection not one I would classify as love but a more deeper connection. It is if our energy vibrates to the same tune we are able to have powerful conversation. We lost contact and moved on and I got married and had two kids. I love my husband but recently for some reason the friend I mentioned earlier and myself contacted each other. We started having conversations and catching up I have always felt that I cannot be my full flawed me to my husband as he might not love me. I can bare everything to this guys and him the same he is my ultimate the connection has always been very strong and the conversation honest and deep. I do not know how to explain it but he knows my flaws and I know his. Meeting up and chatting gave me access to deeper part of me allowing me to be vulnerable. There is a primal force pulling me to him even though my heart belongs to another. I just cannot understand how someone so far away from me has this effect on me.

    January 5, 2017 at 4:54 am #124605
    Inky
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    Hi velandra,

    The first thing to do is to accept the connection and not demonize it.

    A less enlightened person (that is, most people) would interpret the connection as a reason to drop their husband and start over. Luckily you know not to do that as you recognize that the connection isn’t romantic, and yet it’s very, very deep.

    I get it. I have those connections. It’s like coming home.

    You have to set boundaries for the sake of other people’s interpretations and feelings though. Even his and even yours if need be.

    View him as an occasional blessing. If you’re talking to him every day for instance, that might not be good.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    January 5, 2017 at 6:16 am #124608
    Anonymous
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    Dear velandra:

    Do you think that it is possible that with the friend, in the past and present, you are not afraid that he will leave you, or abandon you if he knows more about you, so you share and enjoy the freedom of sharing a whole lot with him. On the other hand, you are afraid your husband will leave you, so you hide parts of yourself and limit your sharing with him?

    anita

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