Hi,

I met this guy 1 year back when i had a 8 years relationship breakup..after meeting this guy i felt that i had not that type of feeling with the previous guy…this guy made me feel special all the time..he is so much emotionaly attached to me..he proposed me after 7 months..i was afraid to say yes because of my previous heartbreak..but after somedays i accepted his proposal..we had a great time together…after some more months he proposed me for marriage..but i m confused for the marriage…if i see career part..i m having a good job with good salary but he does nothing. He left his job few time back because he was not interested..whenever i talk to him about his career plans..he always says that i will start my own business but nothing is planned for that…he says that first i will marry to you and then we both wil plan together about starting a new business…he is financialy stable because of his family…he is somewhat abusive also..while talking to his friends or others he generally uses abusive language…i dont like that…whenever i talk to him about this…he always says..that i am working on it and will definitely end using this kind of language..i m from a decent family…i have never heard of this type of abusive language…when i told my best friend about this guy…then she tried to make me understand that i dont deserve this guy…but according to me for marriage love is necessary…the guy with which i had 8 years of relationship..he was so decent, a good job, family…but in the end he ditched me for another girl..he was involved with another girl…and this guy i have complete trust on him that he loves me and will do anything for me…but i m confused after talking to my friend..and thinking about other prospects such as career n all…confused between my heart and brain..please help me..what should i do.