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    Maria
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    Hi,

    I met this guy 1 year back when i had a 8 years relationship breakup..after meeting this guy i felt that i had not that type of feeling with the previous guy…this guy made me feel special all the time..he is so much emotionaly attached to me..he proposed me after 7 months..i was afraid to say yes because of my previous heartbreak..but after somedays i accepted his proposal..we had a great time together…after some more months he proposed me for marriage..but i m confused for the marriage…if i see career part..i m having a good job with good salary but he does nothing. He left his job few time back because he was not interested..whenever i talk to him about his career plans..he always says that i will start my own business but nothing is planned for that…he says that first i will marry to you and then we both wil plan together about starting a new business…he is financialy stable because of his family…he is somewhat abusive also..while talking to his friends or others he generally uses abusive language…i dont like that…whenever i talk to him about this…he always says..that i am working on it and will definitely end using this kind of language..i m from a decent family…i have never heard of this type of abusive language…when i told my best friend about this guy…then she tried to make me understand that i dont deserve this guy…but according to me for marriage love is necessary…the guy with which i had 8 years of relationship..he was so decent, a good job, family…but in the end he ditched me for another girl..he was involved with another girl…and this guy i have complete trust on him that he loves me and will do anything for me…but i m confused after talking to my friend..and thinking about other prospects such as career n all…confused between my heart and brain..please help me..what should i do.

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    Anonymous
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    Dear Maria:

    It is my understanding that you really like the fact that this guy is emotionally attached to you, especially since your eight year relationship ended because that man was not attached to you and left you for another woman.

    On the other hand, you are concerned about marrying him because he is not working and has nothing planned for the future business he says he will start after getting married with you.

    If you marry him and have children with him, the finances have to be discussed before marriage, before you agree to marriage. To be discussed: will the two of you be living off your salary alone? Will his family’s money be part of your marital budget? The business he may start, whose money will go into starting it: his family’s? Your salary?

    This is a serious topic to be addressed and resolved before you agree to marriage.

    Note: the breakup of your eight year relationship is not a good-enough reason to marry this particular man. There may be others, more suitable for you.

    Regarding his abusive language to others, this needs to be resolved as well, before- and if- you agree to marriage, especially if you intend to have children and you don’t want them exposed to that language.

    anita

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