Happy Friendship Day to you too, Priyanka.

anita

Yes. 2 reasons. Texting, or calling you at Midnight, even if it is your birthday is rude. You could have been sleeping. He could have waited for a more appropriate time. 2nd. He could have said what he wanted to talk about since he had already contacted you. I think because it was your birthday, he was just thinking about you, but I don’t think he is probably wanting anything more. If he did, he would have contacted you before your birthday. I think it is right what you did.

Dear Priyanka:

Happy belated Birthday. I think it is the correct choice on your part to have no contact with him. The reason: he made it very clear to you that he sees no future with you. Looking at the title of your thread: whether to move on or fight- there is no sense in fighting, and so, you need to move on.

When in contact with him, his voice, his words keep your emotional attachment to him strong and so, it prevents you from moving on.

Maybe you can communicate to him that in order for you to move on you need no contact with him, you need him to not initiate contact with you. If he is somewhat empathetic  and respectful of you, he will stop initiating contact with you, like he did yesterday.

Regardless of his choice, I see no contact as necessary for you to weaken that emotional attachment to him, which will make moving on for you possible.

anita

You are welcome, Priyanka.

anita

Dear Priyanka:

Yes, it is normal to miss your ex, of course. It is normal, or natural because you formed an emotional attachment to him. Once you form an emotional attachment to a person, a pet, even an object (babies form emotional attachments to their blankets, their toys… and adult do too, to their cars, clothes, etc.), when you are not in contact with what you are attached to, you miss it.

In order for the attachment to weaken, avoid contact with the person you are attached to. Distract yourself (a walk, some work that needs to be done…). Try to accept the fact that you miss him, the fact that you will miss him sometimes, and relax, then distract. Keep going.

anita

Dear Priyanka

On August 2, you wrote: ” He says we r just friends n nothing more can happen between us, we donot have any future together”.

Today you wrote: “I feel like he still loves me…there are many other signs“-

I would go by what he told you, the words he said (first quote) and not by signs or by what it feels like. You can ask him if he changes his position stated above (first quote). Then, take it from there.

anita