Hi all,

I hope any of you can give me a hand with a situation I have. I start by saying that I have a good life: health, friends, love, a home and a job that pays my rent. I even get some free time that I use to work on photography, so you see, I have a hobby, too. I realize all this is a true blessing; the problem is I keep sabotaging myself creating unnecessary drama by thinking and obsessing about someone from my past that for unfortunate reasons I have to see every other day.

This “thinking and obsessing” had been going on for a couple of years until I did something about it. Recently I did try, really really tried to get together with this person (because I thought that if I was so obsessed then I should act upon it and at least try and see what happened), but it didn’t work out, so the “relationship” ended. Last time we talked I thanked this person for all the good, wished all the very best and I think we “parted” on decent enough terms (at least on my side). So, now that I’m walking the path I decided to follow, I have no reason to look back.

The problem is, even if I did all that and I am convinced this person does not belong in my life, I keep thinking about it. I’m writing to you about it…

I guess I do it because in a very sick way I find it entertaining (thinking about how hurt I was at some point and realizing that this person has moved on). I also find myself feeling jealousy and some rage every now and then and wondering were this person is when it doesn’t show up. I’m so selfish that I even wish this person keeps thinking about me (and I feel very very guilty for that). On the whole, I keep having these unhealthy thoughts and emotions, and when I catch myself having them I try to change my focus and to think about another thing, but once I get distracted my thoughts go right back there.

I need advise from any of you who knows how I can stop thinking about this. I’ve partially moved on, but I really really need to fully let go by exorcising this from my mind.

Thank you.