June 13, 2022 at 2:41 pm #402363KaytieParticipant
Hi, I’d like to remain mostly anonymous, but I really would like to know: how to deal with loneliness when you physically can’t socialize or talk to others. What do you do about it?
thank you. Any tips are appreciated.June 13, 2022 at 3:21 pm #402375
I respect your need to remain mostly anonymous and therefore I will ask you any questions. You are welcome to share only what you feel comfortable sharing.
“how to deal with loneliness when you physically can’t socialize or talk to others. What do you do about it?” – reach out on an online forum just as you did. Behind the typed words you are reading right now, there is person (me) as real as you. We can talk about anything you want to talk about, if you do.
anitaJune 13, 2022 at 8:27 pm #402382
* correction: “I will NOT ask you any questions”June 13, 2022 at 10:00 pm #402393KaytieParticipant
Hello there Anita.
It’s nice to meet you. I’m not sure what to talk about if I am being honest. I guess I could say, Reading other forums that you have commented on and given advice on has really helped me out- so thanks. I guess I have a question for you. In my other thread you responded and said spending time on these forums has helped you heal. However, from you I have only seen posts where you give advice to others. How have the forums helped you? I’m just curious.
Kaytie (Katie)June 14, 2022 at 7:19 am #402402
Dear Kaytie (or Katie?):
It’s nice to meet you too! In regard to how the forums help me: the more I learn about others, the more I understand myself; the more I understand myself, the more I understand others. I share a lot about myself when I reply to members and the more I share, the more I process my emotions and get better for it- an example of how I do it is the last post (May 13, 2022) on the first page of my School Bullying thread (currently on page 2 of the list of topics).
As far as asking other members for advice… I have done very little of that. The reasons:(1) the areas I currently need advice on require professional and expert advice that is not available here, (2) I received unasked for advice in the past that was insensitive and unkind and that left a bad taste in my mouth. (I myself gave unkind and insensitive advice in the past. I regret it and I keep working on improving my communication with members. There were times when I asked for advice from particular members with whom I communicated for a long time and trusted to be kind and sensitive.
More in regard to how the forums help me- in your other thread (which I will go to next), your input on healing from OCD helped me organize my thoughts better as I typed my reply to your original post, so I understand OCD a bit better because of you!