Dear Dina:

Glad to read your very first thread here!

I believe it is possible for a couple to love each other even though the two have very different political views if the two respect each other. What I found out in my life recently is that when a person is very angry at a president, at a political topic of any kind, when they express their views with much eagerness (that word again), it is because the person is projecting a personal issue into a political issue… and that is very common. It is relatively safe to be angry at the president or about illegal immigration than it is to be aware of one’s anger toward a parent, or anger toward oneself!

So when one’s partner goes on and on about any topic, political or otherwise, drivers on the road, for one, it is about an angry partner.

I think a couple in a relationship have to agree on some basic values such as honesty, monogamy, etc.

anita

Dear Dina:

This is the nature of this path I refer to again and again, the healing path I call it: I get to see more and more and more and the more I see, the more there is to see.

Our exchange made it possible to see things I did not see before: I wrote those things I learned this very morning, following our exchange and reading some of your comments to others… so you made me see more, and here on this thread, you are seeing something you didn’t see before. I love this!

anita

Dear Dina:

I didn’t get the nature of the conversation with your boyfriend, the nature of the fear you expressed to him, but i get the sharing of your fears with him and him listening and being empathetic to you and respectful. You shared about him in a previous comment about your panic attacks (so far apart for a while, so glad!) and he was very supportive. Most healing is done in the context of a safe relationship like the one you are having!

anita