Menu

Dealing with insecurities in a healthy way

Home→Forums→Relationships→Dealing with insecurities in a healthy way

New Reply
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • July 17, 2018 at 4:25 am #217193
    Inky
    Participant

    Hi jdkm,

    Your new boyfriend is super fit, and I’m assuming he could get any girl he wanted based on being a good looking nice guy alone. Think of it this way: He chose YOU! And he’s still with YOU! This thought could theoretically give you mammoth insecurities or actually make you more secure. Choose the Secure Option. Even if you lose him (for whatever reason), because you dated someone like him, you KNOW you could attract a quality person again! Own it!

    And now ask yourself this: What if you did break up (for whatever reason)? This could statistically eventually happen. Not everyone we go out with is destined to be our forever partner (obviously). Now answer the question in your mind. Imagine that possibility. And be OK with it. You would be OK. Vow to enjoy this relationship no matter how long it lasts.

    Best,

    Inky

    July 17, 2018 at 10:36 pm #217361
    jdkm
    Participant

    Yes.

    All of that is literally exactly what I needed to remember. I read your comment just before meeting him yesterday, and it was such a good evening.  You helped me refocus on what matters, and remember that if it doesn’t work out, that’s ok too. I felt a lot less insecure, and it came across.

     

    Thank you ? you got exactly where I was coming from and helped me rebalance my thoughts. Thank you.

     

  • Author
    Posts
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)

You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register.