I’m sorry this is long but this has been most challenging, scary and honestly need advice. I’ve now been married to my husband for 3 years. We have two beautiful children, almost 3 and 1 years old. My husband is from another state and I’m from another. Hes always been odd and a mommas boy. He was adopted at the age of 1 by his adoptive parents whom are divorced. His biological parents are from another state as well and he’s not close with them. His dad moved out and eventually remarried, his step mom is awesome. His dad is amazing we all get along great with no issues and often help give advice or sometimes buy a few toys and clothes for the kids. I’ve always been nice to his other family members and never gave issues. While we were dating, I always noticed his mom being so controllive over him almost like a dog. After a year of dating and several back and forth plane rides, we decided he could move in with me which I’m living with my parents since I just moved back to the area and needed to try to save up money for a place of my own. Well, we soon married and had our first child together. He kept trying to find work and the ones he did have soon bored him ( retail stocker). He had a close friend who works in the oil rig field that he’s trying to start up his own team and he wanted my husband to work for him. So my husband temporarily moved back in with his mom to get this started after our oldest 1st birthday. Little did we know we were expecting our 2nd child soon. I told him and we agreed, if it didn’t work out he’d come back home. Alot of fumbles and excuses and he just didn’t seem like he was gonna come home. Ive even begged him to come home, telling him its not gonna work with his friend. His mom, who just retired wasn’t much help and got into our business all the time. So I decided to gather what little money I had left and fly with our oldest over for a 2 week visit. Apparently we all got into a 5 car collision on the last day of our visit, i got the worse out of everyone and was sent to the hospital and hoping everything would be alright with my 2nd child since I was still pregnant. All checked out ok but I was in extreme pain with terrible bruises and just wanted to get home. A few more months go by and I was told I had to deliever my little bundle of joy sooner than later due to a health reason or risk losing my baby. After talking to my husband, he said he’d be there and fly out as soon as possible. He never came. I still feel angry, hatred and lied to. After birth by myself, I blasted at him over the phone stating he said he’d be there..he changed his tune and told me he never said anything but he wished he could be there. Ill never forgive him for that. Ever since he was suppose to start working with his friend, he never looked for work at all. After about 5 months of getting on his case he decided…since his sister told him, to get something in the meantime. So he went back to working at walmart. Over and over I told him to transfer or quit. He’s stubborn and just won’t quit or even attempt to get another job. Now near Christmas time last year his mother who was a hermit, do nothing all day, literally except watching tv, became mental. I’ve never been told what but I believe it to be schizophrenia. She went and accused me if things that weren’t true and claimed I said things and she often had ‘discussions ‘ with my dad whom she never spoken to, written or seen. I got accused of things like bugging the whole house and everyone needs to whisper in the house so I couldn’t hear and I’ve been I side the house when I never was, also hard to be inside a house when you’re over 1800 miles away. Things got worse and worse with her. His two sisters didn’t believe us until she started to state things like the fbi is outside the house patrolling the grounds for witches and up TILL she asked her eldest daughter to hand her a butcher knife cuz there was a witch behind her. She went to the hospital many many times and never could find anything but tried other medications. All this while being pregnant, going through birth and trying to raise two kids by myself and being accused of trespassing, thievery and worst of all which has marked her burning her bridges with me is accusing me of both child abuse which is far from true and she believed I murdered them. Also greatly not true. After a few months, she apologised to the daughter’s and my husband for her crazy actions but never apologised to me. She was then moved to live with the youngest daughter who couldn’t tolerate her mental actions so the eldest took her in. So, my husband basically became a hosuesitter for them and pays a very low rent to help with the bills. Instead of offering for myself the kids to move in. Apparently only his best friend could move in and was never given a reason. I’ve been a nervous wreck, crying daily and has dragged our marriage down. He’s ‘tried’ talking to his sisters and mom about us mov8ng in there even temporary till we get something on our own but she flat out refuses. At one point I got fed up and sent her a message waiting for my apology. She’s not once given me a reason to why but the usual because…and it’s my house. She doesn’t even pay most of the bills, his sisters do. So I sent a nasty message back with all the vent rage which I have no regrets. She’d rather myself and my kids be on the streets than help.  Here you have one sister that wants my husband and I to move in, another to sell the house while his friends mom and even a family friend of his family thinks they should do rent to own with us. She denies all help but will allow him and his buddy to stay there. It’s now been close to 2 years since we’ve really been together as a family. I’m now at the point where I just wanna move on and divorce him. I honestly don’t want to divorce him and the kids want him with us but no-one can suggest anything except divorce. He doesn’t really stand up for us or even himself with his family. They all dictate and treat him like trash. The youngest will control him and he jumps to command. We’re both stuck and trying to get a place of our own but our credit is terrible. During my pregnancy I was working two jobs but I was forced to quit with one, the other I never heard back when to return so I was unemployed for a year. Now I’m working but this current job isn’t working out and will need to find another. He’s not willing to try for another job for soemreason and is really slow at getting anything done as in responsibilities. He won’t move back to us since I’m still with my parents and there it’s a challenge because they’re horders. It’s been tough on me and the kids as well. He wants us to move in with him where he’s at but mommies keeps saying no and won’t give anyone a real reason. Everyone has tried to ask her why and she’ll give a partial excuse  but quickly change the subject..even tells g me you hate my guts, just tell me so I’ll know why..dont give me the reason of because…thats not a legit reason. I’m really needing advice because I’m so stuck. I honestly don’t want to move where he’s at because I really dislike the state and don’t like the education system there. I’m up for living in other states or other job opportunity which is why I accepted my current job but from being out of work for so long and zero money saved up. I can’t afford a place or even a babysitter so I will have to move back home. None of my so called friends in the area Im currently working wants to help and I tried all housing sources. My parents have been watching my kids while I work but are unable to any longer for health reasons. Can anyone offer something? I care about my marriage and my husband.he wants us to be together but I feel like he’s not trying hard enough. My fil and his step mom, agree we need to be together but since he’s not really ‘getting his ass home’ to divorce him.