So last month I received a text message from my boyfriend of a year and a half that ‘we are over’, I called him up and he simply said that he loves me but he can no longer deal with the arguments, he then blocked my number and deleted every trace of me on social media. Obviously I was in shock, only the day before it was my birthday and he brought me a necklace with our names engraved and our anniversary on it, and a card which he had written ‘I love you more than anything’. The arguing was getting us both down, but I never once thought it would lead to this. We were very serious and I know he loved me, we would talk about marriage and children – even the day before the break up on my birthday he was discussing our future together. Since we haven’t been together I haven’t heard from him, on the first weekend of the breakup I saw him in a club and he complexly ignored me, like I was a stranger. A couple of weeks ago I found out that he had been on a date which obviously immensely upset me, so I decided to go clubbing got drunk and stupidly kiss someone. My ex found this out and got very upset, which confused me even more. To make things worse I’ve recently discovered that I’ve had a miscarriage with my ex’s baby, which is hardly surprising with how constantly stressed I’ve been, I decided to tell him as it’s a hard procedure to go through on your own, but he simply ignored my message and calls. Instead he’s continually going out every weekend, looking like he’s having the time of his life. It sounds like I’ve painted an horrendous picture of him, but he in our relationship he was a great person, he works hard made me feel my happiest when I was with him. So do I wait around for him to ‘do his thing’ as it may be his way of dealing with this, or do I close the book and move on ?

I will be very thankful for any advice!