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  • February 17, 2016 at 11:18 am #96306
    Shelly
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    For a bit of background, I am 25 and graduated college with my BA in education.

    I didn’t have a definite interest through most of my time in college. After my first semester, I declared a major in education because of my good experiences with teachers. I wanted to be an advocate for someone, or to simply help people learn and think more of themselves. I ended up graduating with this major, and during the end of my college years, I found that I had other interests in science and history, but it was too late to pursue them. I started grad school to get my credential to teach, and decided that I hated teaching. It wasn’t the kids so much, but just the system and lack of support. I decided to drop out and pursue something else.

    Academic advising at the college level was always my plan b. I decided that I would prefer to work with older students on a one-on-one basis. I advise high school students for free as it is and I love it, so I figured, why not? A few months ago, I found myself in an entry level job that I hated. I worked there for 2 months and decided I was going to look for higher education jobs so I could do something I enjoyed. I applied to a few jobs but I never got any calls back. I found a job as an admissions advisor for a massage therapy school that paid decently, and they ended up hiring me. I was excited to find a job that I could use my experience towards getting a job in higher education.

    Two days before I was supposed to start this new job, I got hit with chronic vertigo. I was bedridden for two weeks, and had to research my own symptoms to find a solution. The doctors couldn’t do anything for me. All my tests came back normal. That was 4 weeks ago. I finally found an alternative method that is working for me, but I still have about 2 weeks until I am back 100% . This new job has basically told me that they will be looking for someone else, but if I get better in time, then I can still have the job. As I’ve had a lot of time to think, I can’t help but wonder if this was the universe’s way of telling me to keep looking in higher education instead of settling for this. Should I just start looking elsewhere and forget this job? I feel like my first impression with the new job has been tainted, and definitely started on the wrong foot.

    What do you think?

    February 17, 2016 at 2:46 pm #96335
    Anonymous
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    Dear Shelly:

    You asked what I think, as a reader of your post… okay, here is what I think:

    I don’t believe in destiny, in a plan set by a god, a higher power be it the traditional biblical god or its New Age counterpart: The Universe. I don’t think a god/ Universe gave you vertigo so to prevent you from taking the job and so that you pursue another job. I don’t believe there is a reason to everything or that everything happens for a reason. What happens happens because of acts of nature (earthquakes, tsunami, etc.) People’s choices from wars to crime to economic decisions people make globally by nations, corporations, and the person down the street. All these ingredients and more act in a complex net of events for no particular purpose and not as part of a plan.

    So i think your vertigo is not a message from a higher power. It just happened or could be that you were anxious about the job and the vertigo was a symptom of your distress.

    anita

    February 18, 2016 at 7:54 am #96399
    E
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    Hi Shelley, It’s possible that some things happen for a reason, and sometimes things just happen. It’s trite in hard times, but some of its how we deal with whatever is happening that makes us or breaks us. I have severe anxiety issues (ptsd related) to the past few years of my life, which included a breakup, a car wreck and an abusive caregiver who assaulted me. I don’t believe that the bad things happened for a reason (except maybe the breakup, but I’m learning to accept that the breakup was collateral damage in the wake of the abuse I had been receiving). I can’t blame myself for everything that’s happened, and even my own reactions are full of self-blame in some moments (ah, if I could have only made the right choices!!)

    But– things work out the way they work out and then we deal with things as they are, with a focus on what you want to become or where you want to go in life. I would suggest listening to the little voice that telling you to “wait a minute” if you can and really think about things. It could be the Universe telling you this isn’t for you, but it could be you telling you this isn’t for you. You are already unhappy. Or it could be your body’s reaction to the stress, as Anita suggested.

    Vertigo sounds really scary and I hope you are able to get through any other issues with it in the future. I don’t know what your situation is like, but if you need the job, I hope you are able to stick with it until you are able to get the position that you want.

    Peace ~E

    February 18, 2016 at 11:12 pm #96454
    Shelly
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    Thank you both for the replies. It has helped give me some perspective.

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