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  • January 5, 2016 at 6:30 pm #91457
    Jane
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    Happy New Year everyone, hope the new year brings all you intended for <3

    I’ve been struggling with some mixed emotions about my current relationship of a year now. Its been light and fun with some arguments here and there but over all its been a good experience where I felt the love from both sides up until recently. Now I dont know if its all in my head, but I can feel it in my heart and body a disconnect between us because Ill get this anxious/fearful feeling. I’d like to mention too that I’ve experienced this in the past but in time things seemed to eventually smooth itself out and we’d come back to that genuine place again, therefor I’m not sure if this is one of those times. We’ve had a situation the other week where I finally asked him if something was bothering him and he said maybe its best to have some time apart. Shocked and sadden I tried to talk him out of it but eventually I starting packing up my belongings from his place and it was until then when he stopped me from leaving so I stayed. I’ve

    January 5, 2016 at 7:12 pm #91461
    Anonymous
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    Dear Jane:

    To know “if its all in (your) head”- ask him, communicate back and forth. How will you know, if you don’t ask, how will he know, if he doesn’t ask. Talk about the importance of letting each other know what is going on. Talk, talk and then talk again…

    Happy New Year to you too!

    anita

    January 6, 2016 at 4:30 pm #91596
    Jane
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    Thank you Anita! I know communication is key – which I am working on. Honestly, the only reason I hesitate to bring this up often is I dont want to sound needy or insecure. The proper time to communicate is key i suppose..

    Jessica, assuming you are still together? hmmmm.. I don’t think I would do that as I find it unnatural. How are things going now?

    p.s. thank you for the referral though!

    January 6, 2016 at 7:44 pm #91619
    Anonymous
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    Dear Jane:

    You can bring anything up without sounding needy or insecure. You can say something like: “I feel fear that you will leave me” and say it in a way that is self respectful, not needy. Everyone is afraid sometimes. Many people are often afraid. I am sure he is not a stranger to fear. So you can tell him “I am afraid…” and even have tears in your eyes and still have your self respect. I mean, strong, worthy people are afraid and sad… it is natural and human. So it will be okay to express weakness- there is much strength in doing that. I hope I am clear here, I am not sure.

    By the way “jessica” is a spammer, trying to get people to google that address and give their money to some magician, a spell caster. She or he posted the same post you got here all over the forum tonight, so please ignore it.

    anita

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