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  • July 6, 2015 at 12:58 pm #79364
    Nekoshema
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    Hi everyone,

    I read posts like ‘I worked a 9 to 5 and was miserable until I spent a year backpacking through Thailand [or wherever] and discovered my true calling was a motivational speaker/yoga teacher/writer’ this is great for some people, but I know it’s not for me. I’m trying to figure out what I want to do for a career, and so far all I know is what I don’t want [I’m sick of working in kitchens, sales, or dealing with the public like waitress or customer service because I can’t cope with people yelling at me because ‘it’s not your fault but you’re the person I’m dealing with so I’ll blame you’.] Sadly, that’s all I know. My question is, what are ways people have figured out what they were ‘born to do’ as they say?

    Thanks.

    July 6, 2015 at 1:04 pm #79365
    GSIL
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    Hi Neko,

    I totally know what you’re talking about.

    It’s great that you know what you don’t want to do, a lot of people can’t say the same.

    There are a few different ways you can find a new path. Tony Robin’s book awakening the giant within is awesome and can walk you through a proven method.

    But what makes you happy (regardless of making money)?

    Troy

    July 6, 2015 at 4:13 pm #79409
    Nekoshema
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    Is it strange to say I don’t know? As a kid I changed my mind every week, but for the past 10 years I’ve basically been on autopilot. I remember being 14 at dinner telling my mom I was thinking about being a farmer or a writer, maybe both, and she told me that farming was too hard, but I’m a good cook so I should be a chef. [I am a good cook but I pursued culinary because people said I should not because I was passionate.] I’m thinking about becoming a maid because I like cleaning and organizing but again people think I should go into financial planning because I’m good at budgeting [but I hate math]

    July 7, 2015 at 4:35 am #79448
    Sann
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    Hello Nekoshema

    I am struggling with a bit similar things as you, so i wouldn’t be the best person to give you advice.

    [I am a good cook but I pursued culinary because people said I should not because I was passionate.]

    I don’t really understand this sentence, it might be because English is not my first language..
    It seems you’re unsure to know what you want.
    And also, it sounds like what makes it extra confusing for you is that there seem to be many people around you to tell you what they think you should do and you don’t know if you should follow their advice.
    I don’t know if it makes sence what they say, and it might give you some things to think about, but the only person who can decide what’s best for you, is probably only yourself. So I hope that you will find your own voice, and see the advice of other people just as something to consider, not as guidelines.
    Of course it can be a lot more scary if we take the decisions ourselves. But, for example, farming might be very hard, but then there are people that do it and love the hard work, because that’s what they enjoy – even though many people will think they’re crazy.

    You write that you are sick of doing certain jobs, it sounds like you are working in these kind of jobs since quite a while..? I can imagine that doing work you don’t like for long time, is not helping you to connect with what you do enjoy.

    I don’t know if there would be a possibility to try out these things that you like or that you think you would like to do. For examply by volunteering? I did quite a bit of volunteering work myself and it did help me in some ways, to see what kind of activity and environment is really good for me. You have already some ideas, maybe you can just start with those and see how you like them.
    Of course, i don’t know if that is possible for you…

    Good luck.

    July 7, 2015 at 7:33 am #79458
    Nekoshema
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    Thanks for the ideas. I don’t have a car so volunteering in my area could be a bit tricky, but I’ll look into some things.

    What I meant was I’m a talented chef, but it’s a hobby. I went to chef school and worked in kitchens on and off for 10 years and I hate it. Cooking for friends and family, no problem, having to rush around making 100 meals in an hour not fun.

    Growing up I was close with my family and friends and wanted to make them happy [long story] but now I’m at a point where I don’t get others input, and I’m lost. I think this or that career would be fun but I don’t know how to be sure, as the primary bread winner in a paycheck to paycheck household I can’t decide to try on different job hats to see how they feel.

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