Hello,

I am very sorry to hear about your sad experience. Parting with someone dear to us is one of the most difficult things to overcome, but yet it happens to every human being at some point in their life. It is normal human reaction to feel grief and sadness over it, so you don’t need to feel frustrated with the emotions that overwhelm you… Anyone in your shoes would feel the way you do (I’ve been through this, people dear to me have been through this kind of break ups). The bad thing is that as much as you want it and try, there is no quick ‘fix’ to this, the good thing is that it gets better in time, under any circumstances, cause if nothing else evolution will ‘work it’s magic’. You are stronger than you know and you will learn as you go, day by day.

The fact that you are dealing with depression, and letting go of toxic person in your life, looking for ways to help yourself.. It tells me you are a fighter after all, and you will get through this in time.

You mentioned loneliness and isolation… As human beings we have the natural need to be around other people, to be loved, and to love someone… and feelings like loneliness can be very hurtful for our soul.. I know that you feel like no one can feel the blank you feel right now, but yet, get in touch with people, family members, friends. They can bring a lot of comfort. I remember when i had my ‘big break up’, I used to do stuff on ‘auto pilot’ the first few months.. i didn’t feel like going out, trying new things, talking to people about meaningless stuff. The pain was following me anyway, so what’s the point. But I did these things anyway, and in time I started enjoying some of them. You don’t have to figure a whole schedule right now… just one small thing at a time.. the first that comes in mind.

Hi

I wanted to add something but I feel like Maria has summed it up for me. Be patient 🙂

Dear yahyamayet:

Are you doing this “pain body” work in context of therapy? Do you have an objective for doing this?

anita