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    samir saha

    Anyone here can help with suggestion for falling out of love. If your ex break up with you on some practical grounds. The reason may be anything ,not agreeing parents, different Job locations or may it be compatibility issues.How you can let go the person you love so much and he/she was loyal to you too during your entire period of relationship. The thing is ,just the circumstances are not favorable any more. How can we get out with such situation and start afresh?


    I don’t think you do get out or start afresh. That person has imprinted themselves on your heart and mind. They will always be there to some degree or another. There is no undo button or CTRL+Z to clear the page. The story just continues to get written. With time and new experiences, that person recedes into the background as other characters move into your life and foreground. But with time, they too will recede and fade.

    To accept the impermanence of all things in life is the letting go that helps you find a new strength and resolve to move forward.

    iris valera

    Peter has put it perfectly: “To accept the IMPERMANENCE of all things in life is the letting go that helps you find a new strength and resolve to move forward.”

    Roberta Budvietas

    One way I have stayed with the same man for over 40 years is that our relationship is a commitment one day at a time. We chose to be in this relationship every day and some days we want out but then we get to decide again tomorrow what we want. The love is always there just we watch the head stuff and so we keep choosing to stay. And we definitely don’t agree on everything. Sometimes the disagreements are major but we chose the relationship over the issues.


    peter is some what right i also believe that the person live in your memories but you have to move on. I have my person view may be lots of people disagree but “You can fall in love as much time as you want. You don’t even realize this when you meet the right person you fall for him.” so leave the past and give life another chance.


    Yes, Roberta, I think you are correct. There is work and conscious choice-making involved with remaining in a monogamous relationship for an extended period of time. If I thought always, “this is not permanent so why work at it?” then there wouldn’t be many long term relationships for me. This other person in your life may not want to do that work or conscious choice-making because he or she may have to look at some uncomfortable aspects of ‘self’ in order to stay close in the relationship. That person’s path is unique to that person, and it is his or her way. You may ache for some time in this period of loss.

    You may wish to try an exercise I learned from Sue Fredrick’s book Bridges to Heaven, which is about grief and loss and how to heal.
    Basically, the short version is to get into a meditative state through repetition of your mantra. Once your mind is clear, allow images of you and your departing partner together in the best times. Keep allowing the images and feelings to come until you are bursting full. Then, take your hands and place them palms in toward your heart.
    Speak to your high self, higher power or to God–however you believe–and ask to have this pain removed from you as it no longer serves a positive purpose in your life. Stretch your open palms out in front of you and wait to feel the weight on them lifted away. (For this to happen, you must actually visually ‘see’ your grief as a ‘thing’.) Once you feel lighter and healed, thank the higher power/God for this gift of release. You may need to do this daily for a while, but over time, the pain will lessen.

    The good news is if you do this for a while, your energy will rise to a higher level of vibration and you will attract someone who is on a path that better fits with yours.
    Nothing is permanent, but there are better choices and worse choices when it comes to pairings. May the next of yours be the best ever!


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