Menu

Father issues

Home→Forums→Relationships→Father issues

New Reply
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • July 24, 2017 at 5:41 am #159826
    Inky
    Participant

    Hi drew,

    All you owe your (half? step?) sibling and her mother is politeness.

    Your dad cannot say “Have a relationship with these folk if you want one with me”.

    Tell him “I always let people have their own relationship with each other. We do have a relationship, Dad. We’re just not that close.”

    It is his choice whether to have a relationship with you and to what extent. If he puts artificial limits on it, OH WELL! This nonsense going on in his head is probably why he got divorced twice!

    Good Luck,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 9 months ago by Inky.
    July 24, 2017 at 6:42 am #159860
    Eliana
    Participant

    Hi Drew,

    I am a little confused, who was it that abused you? Was it your Dad’s wife, or her daughter? I’m sorry for any confusion on my part, I just want to make sure I am understanding correctly.

    TYour Father States he wants a better relationship with you. A better relationship includes trust, openness and honesty. You have to be willing to trust him to be honest and open with him and vice versa in a loving way. If there is no trust, or you are afraid to approach someone on an issue regarding physical abuse without fear of shame, their can be no relationship. I would open up to your father about everything. If he gets defensive or angry, just say “I’m sorry, I thought you wanted a better relationship with me, I was hoping we could have a trusting and loving conversation about something so upsetting for me”. If he gets angry or defensive, he does not want a “better relationship” keep us posted.

  • Author
    Posts
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)

You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register.