Sarah,

I’m sorry for your panicky state. It’s an awful feeling. First, I think you need to sit down with your partner and have a calm discussion. Don’t tell him that you think he’s dying or anything. But do tell him that you are worried about his health and that it is causing you a lot of anxiety. Obviously, you can’t make someone do anything. But, you can impress upon him that his refusal to go is making you more and more anxious. Also, you both need to realize that you don’t know what the problem is. Without knowing the problem, you don’t know what solutions or remedies are available. While modern medicine is certainly far from perfect, there are a lot of options. But those options are more successful and likely when addressed sooner, rather than later.

As for your fear of losing him, it is totally understandable. You feel vulnerable and you should acknowledge that. But I do hope that it is not getting in the way of your time with your partner or child. A lot of people have this “what if…” fear in their minds at all times, whether their loved one is sick or not. After all, car accidents happen all the time. If worst case scenario occurred, I don’t think you want to look back at how much precious time you wasted fretting over it instead of just enjoying his company and every moment you had with him. So, DO have a discussion or two with him. But also just enjoy every moment.