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September 27, 2025 at 8:23 pm #450385 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: I think it doesn’t matter what this guy and that guy says about you and the Taiwanese woman. What matters is what you tell her and what she tells you in return- privately, just between you and her. Tell her- privately- how you feel. Wait for her response. I know it’s stressful, but IF you can handle this kind of distress, the unknowing, the anticipation- it’d be worth it. Be honest and direct with her. What do you have to lose? 🤍🌿 Anita September 27, 2025 at 9:45 pm #450387 meParticipant meParticipantOh I am sure it’s over by now between us lol, I mean we were just co workers and I don’t like keeping them around when they quit because you never see or talk to them again. Maybe i’ll reach out 1 day who knows, if I can’t connect with her in person (which I can’t) what’s the point? 1 line of text a day is not enough for me, especially if I can’t even see and talk to the person. I’ll miss her quite a bit but It was never going to work out as she was leaving the country. I don’t take offense to being ghosted, she’s leaving the country and maybe she really was just thinking of me as a co worker platonic friend but liked the attention, who knows. But if she only found me as a platonic friend, she would likely be repulsed by our touching. You need physical connection to another person, talking was never our thing…physical touch and flirtation was. I got stuff to do now, no time to mope. I moped when my dad died, now it’s time to move on. I guess this thread is finished, never meant it to last long but decided to post this connection here because it’s been a while since I posted. I’m sure I will be around again with another situation. September 28, 2025 at 8:18 am #450389 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: You are making sense. You were clear in your first post here, Sept 20, which you ended with: “just wanted to post about it.”, and a week later (right above): “I… decided to post this connection here because it’s been a while since I posted.” Like a person reading what seemed like the beginning of a romantic story, I got a bit invested in it, wanting there to be more, thinking it could make you happy. Thank you, me, for being logical, realistic and strong! I am looking forward to reading from you in a new thread. I will miss you! 🤍🌿 Anita September 28, 2025 at 10:49 pm #450405 meParticipant meParticipantWill miss you too. It was an interesting time, from the first time we met anytime I was in the lunchroom and she was there she would imediatly stare at me and rarely look away (either attraction or curiousity), it was awkward. But it eventually stopped when we started talking a little. She has that sweet Taiwanese girl voice and from the games we played like thumb wars, she would link her arms slowly into mine (testing boundaries), to trying to jump on my back, to lifting her up on my side and swinging her around, to chasing her watching her giggle, to trapping her in the corner with a cart so she can’t get out, to our phone games (showing out pets on our phone and acting them out), leaning on her, our backs together and trying to move (one of her favourites), when she sees me in the morning run towards me and bump my side, stand infront of me with her eyes shut and a smile using her teeth, to our poking eachother and our tickling eachother, i’d put a box on her head and my eyes would go to the holes in the box and met her eyes there, or revearsed it, and constantly tagging her with a sticker gun, or her tagging me…my supervisor always had a smile when we were around eachother, same with 1 of the bosses, and a bunch of other things we did together, plus what I mentioned about her last day at work wanting to be around me and the text. No doubt this was some type of “romantic” interest, sadly she had to go back home but I am sure I made an amazing impression on her (like she did me). I’m sure if I asked if she wanted to do something outside of work we would make awesome memories, but you should not ask coworkers out (then again we also should not have done most of the things we did anyway, but it felt right so we did it). Now I am out. September 29, 2025 at 10:55 am #450417 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: It made me smile (my first smile of this Monday, feeling sad that the socially busy weekend is over) when I read about the good, playful times the two of you had, particularly when I imagined your eyes meeting through the holes in the box 🙂 Thank you for sharing about these good times, good memories! I am looking forward to reading from you again, another time, another thread. Please take good care of yourself! 🤍🌿 Anita October 1, 2025 at 9:55 am #450463 meParticipant meParticipantHmmmm I guess she’s not done with me yet…started really messaging me today since I invited her to come with me to Thailand when I get my passport when I visit my buddy there, probably next year sometime. Need money first. I guess she really was wanting to travel with me afterall. October 1, 2025 at 10:18 am #450469 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: I am not surprised she wants to travel with you. After all, the two of you had a lot of fun together. How do you feel about the idea of traveling with her? That would be the first time you’d be with her outside of work, right? 🤍🌿 Anita October 1, 2025 at 10:52 am #450470 meParticipant meParticipantEven if I don’t go with her, i’ll see my budy so doesn’t matter really. Known him since he was born. October 1, 2025 at 11:14 am #450472 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: It’s a good thing you’ll see your buddy, that the trip won’t be just about spending time with her. It’d be less scary this way, meaning if things don’t work out with her, you’d have him to talk with, as a friend. Right? 🤍🌿 Anita October 10, 2025 at 12:59 pm #450784 meParticipant meParticipantHey been a weird month losing most of my stuff. Anyway nothing really changed, still talk but gave her a voice message and wanted to get 1 back but she is a shy girl so gave it a shot before deleting it. Almost been a month now, will have to tell her I miss her soon. October 10, 2025 at 1:10 pm #450786 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantYou miss her..? October 10, 2025 at 3:10 pm #450789 meParticipant meParticipantIn person goofing around? Yeah. But I won’t go after her obviously. October 10, 2025 at 7:35 pm #450796 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantI get it, me, goofing around is Me’s style. one of a kind Me 🙂 Anita October 11, 2025 at 10:22 am #450812 anitaParticipant anitaParticipantDear me: Did you tell her by now that you miss her? It occurred to me this morning as I read your words, “she is a shy girl” that you are a shy guy yourself.. when it comes to saying such things as missing a girl, or such tender, emotional things. Do you think that you are shy in this way? 🤍🌿 Anita October 11, 2025 at 3:37 pm #450817 meParticipant meParticipantYeah I told her I will miss her today (she said hahahaha I will miss you too), she’s about to head back home. Joke with her about traveling and seeing her, but let her know I’m just playing around and I’m not serious, I know I’ll never see you again. She asked me about a visa when I visit my buddy and said I’ll only be a few weeks but I’ll see if she’s around and can come, she said lol (which means no). At the end I said I am not serious about seeing her, just playing around. She’s gone, probably won’t be talking to her again. 15 hours is too far. 
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