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  • #450385
    anita
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    Dear me:

    I think it doesn’t matter what this guy and that guy says about you and the Taiwanese woman. What matters is what you tell her and what she tells you in return- privately, just between you and her.

    Tell her- privately- how you feel. Wait for her response.

    I know it’s stressful, but IF you can handle this kind of distress, the unknowing, the anticipation- it’d be worth it.

    Be honest and direct with her. What do you have to lose?

    🤍🌿 Anita

    #450387
    me
    Participant

    Oh I am sure it’s over by now between us lol, I mean we were just co workers and I don’t like keeping them around when they quit because you never see or talk to them again. Maybe i’ll reach out 1 day who knows, if I can’t connect with her in person (which I can’t) what’s the point? 1 line of text a day is not enough for me, especially if I can’t even see and talk to the person. I’ll miss her quite a bit but It was never going to work out as she was leaving the country. I don’t take offense to being ghosted, she’s leaving the country and maybe she really was just thinking of me as a co worker platonic friend but liked the attention, who knows. But if she only found me as a platonic friend, she would likely be repulsed by our touching. You need physical connection to another person, talking was never our thing…physical touch and flirtation was. I got stuff to do now, no time to mope. I moped when my dad died, now it’s time to move on. I guess this thread is finished, never meant it to last long but decided to post this connection here because it’s been a while since I posted. I’m sure I will be around again with another situation.

    #450389
    anita
    Participant

    Dear me:

    You are making sense. You were clear in your first post here, Sept 20, which you ended with: “just wanted to post about it.”, and a week later (right above): “I… decided to post this connection here because it’s been a while since I posted.”

    Like a person reading what seemed like the beginning of a romantic story, I got a bit invested in it, wanting there to be more, thinking it could make you happy.

    Thank you, me, for being logical, realistic and strong!

    I am looking forward to reading from you in a new thread. I will miss you!

    🤍🌿 Anita

    #450405
    me
    Participant

    Will miss you too.

    It was an interesting time, from the first time we met anytime I was in the lunchroom and she was there she would imediatly stare at me and rarely look away (either attraction or curiousity), it was awkward. But it eventually stopped when we started talking a little. She has that sweet Taiwanese girl voice and from the games we played like thumb wars, she would link her arms slowly into mine (testing boundaries), to trying to jump on my back, to lifting her up on my side and swinging her around, to chasing her watching her giggle, to trapping her in the corner with a cart so she can’t get out, to our phone games (showing out pets on our phone and acting them out), leaning on her, our backs together and trying to move (one of her favourites), when she sees me in the morning run towards me and bump my side, stand infront of me with her eyes shut and a smile using her teeth, to our poking eachother and our tickling eachother, i’d put a box on her head and my eyes would go to the holes in the box and met her eyes there, or revearsed it, and constantly tagging her with a sticker gun, or her tagging me…my supervisor always had a smile when we were around eachother, same with 1 of the bosses, and a bunch of other things we did together, plus what I mentioned about her last day at work wanting to be around me and the text. No doubt this was some type of “romantic” interest, sadly she had to go back home but I am sure I made an amazing impression on her (like she did me).

    I’m sure if I asked if she wanted to do something outside of work we would make awesome memories, but you should not ask coworkers out (then again we also should not have done most of the things we did anyway, but it felt right so we did it).

    Now I am out.

    #450417
    anita
    Participant

    Dear me:

    It made me smile (my first smile of this Monday, feeling sad that the socially busy weekend is over) when I read about the good, playful times the two of you had, particularly when I imagined your eyes meeting through the holes in the box 🙂

    Thank you for sharing about these good times, good memories!

    I am looking forward to reading from you again, another time, another thread.

    Please take good care of yourself!

    🤍🌿 Anita

    #450463
    me
    Participant

    Hmmmm I guess she’s not done with me yet…started really messaging me today since I invited her to come with me to Thailand when I get my passport when I visit my buddy there, probably next year sometime. Need money first. I guess she really was wanting to travel with me afterall.

    #450469
    anita
    Participant

    Dear me:

    I am not surprised she wants to travel with you. After all, the two of you had a lot of fun together.

    How do you feel about the idea of traveling with her? That would be the first time you’d be with her outside of work, right?

    🤍🌿 Anita

    #450470
    me
    Participant

    Even if I don’t go with her, i’ll see my budy so doesn’t matter really. Known him since he was born.

    #450472
    anita
    Participant

    Dear me:

    It’s a good thing you’ll see your buddy, that the trip won’t be just about spending time with her. It’d be less scary this way, meaning if things don’t work out with her, you’d have him to talk with, as a friend. Right?

    🤍🌿 Anita

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