I (30/F) have been with my fiancé (32/M) for 3 years and we live together with no kids. I think our sex life has always been fairly consistent, but we could even kick it up a notch and we’ve also talked about experimenting and deepening our intimacy.

Well the other week I went down to the fitness room in our apartment complex for a brief work out. Later that night I initiated because I was in the mood (and I didn’t expect him to do anything… I don’t mind this because it personally makes me feel good and gives me satisfaction to be a “giver”). Well he turned me down and said he had already taken care of himself and had watched porn while I was working out. I told him that I gladly would’ve given him a hand and he said he understood and would wait for me next time.

Fast forward to last night. The same thing happened. I went to the grocery store and when I got back I noticed his laptop was out. I asked him if he had been watching porn and at first he lied and said no. I told him that I already knew he had watched it while I stepped out to get groceries and then he admitted that he had and apologized for initially lying.

Lately I feel like he’s preferring porn over being intimate with me. I’m not anti-porn. I just think maybe there’s a time and a place for it? Like if I’m physically gone all day. In these instances I’m just running some quick errands and then he *declines* sex because he has already taken care of himself.

He says it means nothing and it’s just a quick and easy release.

Curious to hear thoughts?