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  • January 7, 2014 at 8:44 pm #48655
    Penni
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    Hi!
    I have been having these very strong urges to find peace within myself. The problem is that I am struggling to do just that.. I am not sad, depressed ,unhappy with my life or surroundings. But I do find myself getting angry quicker than usual , I have little tolerance to weakness in others such as gossipers and whiners and complainers.etc… knowing all along this is not the way.. I cannot clear my mind from thoughts without falling asleep… I try to go to silent places but find that hard with my lifestyle.some one is always needing me and I feel guilty if I cannot be there for them.. I am becoming extremely jaded to the human race… I do not know how to seek this peace my mind or soul is asking for.. Meditation is difficult for me. Is there a specific technique.. Any suggestions are welcome.. FYI I do not hate myself or others, I have confidence in who I am .. I just keep having these feelings that I need peace.. my only struggle is repressed grief for my son I lost almost four years ago.. I say repressed because I have yet to break down from this believing that will not help.

    January 8, 2014 at 4:37 am #48666
    Alpal
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    Hello Penni,
    It is obvious why you are getting angry and more frustrated lately , you are overwhelmed with people , we all need time alone, time to re connect to ourselves and calm down for a bit, so don’t be too hard on yourself , no wonder you can’t stand complainers because you are just so overwhelmed . What you can do is , you could try guided meditation if you haven’t already , that is much easier for me than just quiet meditation or you could try guided self hypnosis which both are easier to do than just to sit and be silent. If you are not interested in that you could look for a hobby such as painting , reading, some form of a sport, blogging, cooking, writing, dancing, home movies, musical instruments, crafting, and the list goes on. Because having a hobby or something you are interested in , is kind of a meditation because you forget the rest of the world and just focus on what you are doing and it can actually help you relax your brain and gather your thoughts. Don’t feel guilty about taking time off for yourself because when you are having time for yourself you are doing it for others as well, it helps you become a nicer more happier person because once you are happy and at peace with yourself you can give happiness and peace to the world, so never feel guilty for taking time off or telling someone you are busy , because in order for you to give back to them fully , you will have to recharge!
    Hope I helped !

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    January 8, 2014 at 4:56 am #48668
    AikiBen
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    Hi Penni,

    I’ve experienced similar feelings of intolerance towards others due to their negative habits etc. I personally found that I needed to work on my acceptance of others, at being more compassionate. The main tool I used for this, which has helped quite a lot was Loving Kindness Meditation, which is a type of meditation practiced by certain schools of Buddhism. I think a more general form of meditation might be better for just calming your mind (which gives inner peace), such as focusing on your breath as you just breathe normally. I think in theory you shouldn’t fall asleep if you maintain concentration on the breath, and if you do don’t worry about it, the main thing about meditation is persistence and practice. There are other ways to calm the mind but if I were forced to choose just one it would be meditation, it’s surely the most powerful method. But I have found it important to try to stay mindful throughout the day because if you don’t and you let your mind run away with you then you end up with your head in complete turmoil and it’s extremely difficult to meditate. Of course you have to set aside some time daily say 30min to be by yourself in a quiet place. Maybe get up 30min earlier before everyone else is up? Think of it this way if you’re concerned about being selfish, isn’t it better for others if you are more peaceful and loving when they’re around you, this can only happen if you take the time to do some self-loving first, i.e. meditation, which is self-nurturting in itself. You have to look after number 1 first, you can’t give what you don’t have.

    I’m not qualified to give advice here, but I do know that if you try to suppress emotions then they will find another outlet (possibly anger towards others?). I agree not to let any loss break you down, but expression of emotion is necessary to be healthy, i.e. a balance. Maybe this is how you’ve actually dealt with it though and you simply mean you haven’t broken down…

    January 8, 2014 at 8:05 am #48673
    Penni
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    Hello,
    Thank you Alpal & AikiBen for you inspiring words.. I do have a few questions. I read briefly, an insert on Loving Kindness Meditation, I believe that this could be beneficial to my mind set .. However, I am the kind of person who absolutely loathe a falseness in personality.. Something else to work on? maybe… How do I practice Loving Kindness Meditation and stay to true to myself? or am I misunderstanding something here…

    February 9, 2014 at 10:33 pm #50628
    Amy
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    Hello everyone,
    I’ve been feeling the same way lately. I feel more hostile and irritable towards people..I have no idea how to find myself or even discover my purpose in life. I cannot shake off my stresses.

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