Hi Sonia,

I’m really glad to read back from you 🙂

It makes so much sense that these new boundaries feel strange and uncomfortable. When you’ve spent years putting others first, doing something healthier can feel like you’re doing something wrong, even though you’re not. The guilt you’re feeling doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong — it just means you’re doing something new.

Boundaries often feel awkward at first, but they’re part of taking care of yourself, and it sounds like you’re already noticing moments of relief. It’s also really healthy that you’re letting yourself feel the emotions instead of shutting them down. That’s how real change happens.

A lot of people who’ve spent a long time being very tuned into others’ feelings find that boundaries feel unfamiliar at first. I relate to that — I grew up being very tuned into my mother’s emotions and not having many boundaries. As an adult, saying “no” or not people‑pleasing felt like I was doing something wrong to the other person. It’s something I’ve had to work on too.

Thank you for the update. I’m always glad to hear from you, whenever you feel like sharing.

🤍 Anita