Okay my best friend has never had a healthy friendship with anyone. I am the first best friend who genuinely cares about her. That being said, our friendship has been aughhhhh. She does not bully me or be mean to me,but it is just that anytime when there is conflict in our friendship, she immeditealy apologizes. At first,I had no problem with this but later on it became so annoying! For me, I want to talk about the conflicts in our friendship with her,I don’t want just an aplogy. To me, I am a firm believer in communication. I understand that this is her first friendship having to talk about our issues. Anytime she says I am sorry, it makes our friendship worse. (Ironic) By that, it ignores our problems. Later on those same problems end up getting worse over time. I know she is not used to talking things through,but it can be frustrating. Since this year, she has been busy. She always says I am busy. When she says I am busy, it hurts me. I do want to give her space,but anytime when I want to hang out with her or argued about it with her…it is always I am a busy person or I am busy. Friendships usually do not last from lack of communication, and I don’t get why she does not get it in her head. she can’t keep saying I am busy and not expect me to feel hurt by it. We are only 17 and 18. I do not get why she doesn’t understand that if she keeps saying I am busy, i will feel more distant from her. She still wants to be my friend. I want to still be her friend as well, but I do not want this to be a one-sided relationship. She is used to having friends get mad at her,blame her for a lot of things,talk crap behind her back yet she always gave them chance after chance. But in the end, majority of them left her. She knows I still want to be her friend,but I feel like I am putting more effort into our friendship. I am tired of her saying I am busy. Because to me, it is like how can we stay friends for a long time if you are too busy to even try and work on our communication skills. I know after high school people become more busy but that should not be used as an excuse to not talk to your friends since you might want them in your life still. Why does she keep doing this and what should I do? I sent her a message saying that we both need to put in more effort in the friendship and it is not fair if only one of us is putting more effort than the other along with me saying I love you.