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May 28, 2014 at 9:35 am #57566JoeParticipant
Hi, I haven’t posted here before, but I’ve scanning the forums from time to time. Im 28 years old, my wife and I just bought our first house back in Oct 2013, we have a 21 month old, and twins coming at the end of July.
The reason I decided to finally post was because I have found that with all the things currently going on in my life my wife and I have no time for friends, but we’ve noticed we’re perfectly happy without them. Between trips to the grocery store, ultrasound appointments, playgrounds, concerts, hiking and other outdoor activities, as well as maintaining our house (yard work etc..), we’ve been happy not dealing with the drama of our “friends”. We’ve known these “friends” since high school and none of them are doing what we’re doing, in fact, they all still live at home with mom and dad. So basically it’s hard to relate with them. It seems easier for us to all just move on with our own lives.
My ultimate question is: Is this normal to live life to ourselves like we do? We are not antisocial and do like people. We’re also not opposed to meeting people and possibly becoming friends. Its just that we value our time which is already limited. We occupy ourselves with reading movies and our kids we love cooking our own food. I guess what I’m looking for is some reassurance that there are other people out there like us. Thank you!May 28, 2014 at 6:23 pm #57599JessParticipant
Your situation is not strange at all! Everyone goes through a different life phases and at different times. The friends you’ve known since high school who haven’t started the same things, are just on a different page than what your life is on right now. I think it’s normal to enjoy time with your family and families are busy, I think it’s common to not have much room on your plate for the things you may have had time for previously. I’m a single person, but I have have had many friends have families or start families and the differences are there. I know that my life and the things in it, have different meaning and where I spend my time is different, just as it is for a family. Your focus now is spending time with your family and enjoying the time together (and it sounds like you are). And maybe given your family life, your circle of friends might change as well. Which isn’t a bad thing; just expanding because of the new things you’ve got in your life:)