Hi everyone.

I am a second year student at university. Last year when I moved to university I was moved into a flat with 6 others. I went to university very excited, and actually it just turned out to be the best year of my life. I got on really well with my flat mates, and actually I fell in love with one of them. We dated for 6 months and it was a lot of fun at the time. I also had 2 very close friends in my course that I met up with on a daily basis. We were all very close and loved each other.

Now, I am in second year and I have moved in with my 2 course mates. We decided to move in together because we couldn’t go a day without seeing each other. My ex flat mates and I decided we will meet up often, however although we’ve all spoken about it, we haven’t met up. I miss them. I miss last year. Last year I lived in a flat with some amazing people, who weren’t like me at all. They inspired me to try different things and be relaxed. They were so spontaneous and always made me feel better. I had a boyfriend and I had other friends too that I saw everyday (my course friends). Now, I live in a house with my course friends, and it often feels like they’re the only friends I have. Because we see each other 24/7, I feel that our friendship isn’t so special anymore. We were always so excited to see each other every day, and now it’s become natural. We still have fun and go out together often, but if you were to ask me I’d say I prefer the friendship we had last year.

I’ve tried to make plans with other friends that I have, however they seem to cancel a lot or put off meeting up. I guess the only way I can describe how I feel is slightly lonely, and simply bored. And what I have trouble with the most, is that every time I see pictures of last year I can’t help but start crying, because I miss it so much. I thought this year was going to be amazing just like first year, but so far I feel nothing but lonely and bored of the same routine.

What’s making me feel more lonely is that my house mates are absolutely fine with the way things are. Last year when they were moved into their flat, they didn’t get on with their flat mates, so they were alone a lot of the time. They are both slightly shy individuals, so because of this they don’t feel the need to go out and meet new people (just like myself).

I do french outside of my course so I do interact with other people, but how do I make friends with people who seem to have all met their group of friends and aren’t looking for new people to be friends with? How do I connect with old friends who are happy and don’t feel like they need to see me?

I would appreciate any help, I’ve been trying to get my head around this for a couple of weeks now but I keep falling back to the same state.