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  • October 15, 2013 at 4:23 am #43812
    teresa
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    I was in a relationship with a younger guy (7 years my junior) for almost 3 years. I was totally devastated when he broke up with me after my mild stroke. He said his family does not approve of me because I am too old for him and because I have health issues. (I also had surgery 3 years ago to remove a dermoid in my ovary). It pains me to know that I have been judged because of the things I cannot do nothing about. His family never met me, but only saw my photos in fbuk. It’s been only a month after we broke up and it seems he is coping well, while I remain in depression. I tried to do things to help ease the pain, but it just isn’t easy. I am already 35 and I worry that I will never have a family of my own.

    October 15, 2013 at 10:48 am #43821
    Caroline
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    Hi Teresa, in a strange way I understand this. My boyfriend is 20 years older than I am, and while I love and adore him and can envision our future life together, I am petrified by the thought of losing him in the future because of health issues. I am so sorry you’re going through this! I will keep you in my prayers.
    What I’m trying to remember–and maybe it will help you, too–is that life is so unpredictable. I can’t control when he or I will die, as we all will eventually. But I can work on making myself more focused in the now. Enjoying the relationship now, learning from it now, and instead of anticipating the worst, embracing the best now. I am sorry the younger guy didn’t see it that way, and I hope you are blessed to find someone who does! (And I hope you and I can both learn to embrace the positive in the present, too.)

    October 16, 2013 at 5:39 pm #43893
    Kline
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    You will have a family of your own. Be open to it being on a different time frame and different way than you imagined or planned. There are so many ways to have a family. In the meantime, I hope you can reach out to the people who do love you, and that you can enjoy doing things you love.

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