Hi sk932,

kind of felt creeped out by him as he didnt even know me and asked me out after seeing me in a club and trying to hook up with me a month before that and texting me everyday to make plans – what made you give a guy like this a chance? Would you have given him a chance back then had you been available, despite being creeped out?

he said everytime he considers dating he thinks about his love for her and backs out. moreover, he also said maybe 2 years ago he was behind me to get over her. was it really? all that was all fake? him waiting for me? or is he finding reasons to justify his love for her – Maya Angelou i believe said if someone shows you who they are believe them. He was after you to hook up and when you finally did he let you know he likes someone else and clearly indicated he used you as a substitute. I hope you are able to see this.

When we are down and out. We will cling onto anyone that holds out a helping hand. Had you not been heartbroken and did not need him to open up , would he still be worth being a substitute for another girl? Would any guy really?

i was hoping that after she leaves and he stops seeing her he would forget her (thats what he hopes too) and maybe after that I could try – would you still have hoped and tried had the same thing happened a few years ago. When you were not heartbroken. What would you have done back then, if you liked a guy but he liked someone else and he stated clearly that he does not want a relationship with you and started going after you to hook up?

Do you think your standards for men may have changed since your break up?

gj