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March 14, 2017 at 12:12 pm #139469Thomas hornerParticipant
okay.. so I’ve met this girl and she has been nothing but amazing. There’s so much in common and we share a lot of beliefs but we also share different beliefs. It’s been about a week now since we met and instantly hit it off. The first time we hung out I was admiring her personality and who she is as a person. The second time we hung out the next day. We went for a walk on this path I knew of. We talked and shared our ideas and it was amazing. Same day we smoked and went to target I let her drive my car back to hers. We shared many laughs and hugs. We held hands in the car and we both could feel our energy interwoven with each other. We ended that night with a very intense kiss. She didn’t want to leave me that night. Then came Friday we made plans again to hang out help her with her homework. The homework was started but never got finished. We ended up cuddling in my bed and talking eventually we took a nap. After she woke up she asked me to rub her back I did so. I got to see her in a state where she didn’t have her shirt on and saw her beautiful breasts. She rubbed my neck with her facing me strattling me. Mind you we just met a few days before. It has been nothing but amazing now back to the story. After that she wanted me to choke her and we have similar kinks. I choked her and made out three times cuddled in the dark with candle lit. Then she was about to go I choked her again but this time it wasn’t as innocent as before. It was more romantic than before. I was behind her pushed up against with her throats in hand. I kissed her neck then went directly to her lips. Then I moved her to the wall. I made out with her like that for a good 5-8 minutes. I could see it in her eyes she’s falling for me. She can see it in mine I’m falling for her. Saturday we went out again to the place I first did mushrooms. I told her about my experience she was so intrigued by my experience. Then we left and looked at houses in the neighborhood in that moment I knew by her taste that she was the one I wanted to be with. We met each other’s parents. Both sides like her and her parents liked me. Mind you both our parents hated everyone we’ve ever brought home so that’s a plus. We both have trust a lot of trust in one another. It’s a great feeling.
But here lies the real problem. I know we both love each other deep down and everything has happened happened naturally from the first kiss the 2nd time we hung out. She and I both came out of a relationship where we both weren’t appreciated. That can really take a toll on ones self love. She’s been having a problem loving herself. I don’t really try to reassure her all the time but I just try to show her love and that everyone other than family loves her. We both have a very strong support from our friends and family. How can I help her love herself to eventually love me like I know she does?
March 14, 2017 at 1:04 pm #139483RamoneJosephParticipantThomas,
I’m not sure why you had to give us the explicit details of your heavy petting sessions just to turn around and ask us how to help someone with self love issues?
Has she freely offered this information, or is it an assumption that you’re making based on your own experience? You haven’t given us a lot of information to base any suggestions off of.
Most important, self love is exactly that… SELF. It’s not something to be pursued or suggested by another individual. It’s an experience and journey each of us makes in our own time, in our own way and for reasons we only know. If you are truly close, this doesn’t mean that she will completely exclude you from her experience, but it is not something that you can guide or influence without tainting the way with your own being…
You are wanting her to love herself, so that she can love… Do you understand how selfish that sounds?
I absolutely understand your feelings! Love is a wonderful experience and you don’t want to risk losing what you’ve found…
wishing you health and happiness,
Ramone
March 14, 2017 at 6:43 pm #139509Thomas hornerParticipantRamone, she been telling me she needs to love herself. It was never assumption. I put the basis of what’s happened between us. To see if anyone could elaborate more on the chemistry of us. If she is actually taking interest in me or not. I never ran into something like this.
I know with self help is a journey that has to be explored by oneself. I just want to be apart of her journey to where she wants to be in life and with herself. We have made many plans for each other to do and accomplish together. More than anything I want her to be happy with her choices and everything she wants to accomplish in life. We have many different views but together we make one hell of a team. We both agree on that.
I never noticed her lack of love for herself since she carries herself very well. Knowing she has bipolar disorder. It’s very hard for her to want to do things for her when she would much rather sleep for a week. I wish I could help her I know I truly can’t have all the answers. I can be there and be the presence that doesn’t leave her like others. I care about her and love her for her and her flaws. The connection we share is very strong it’s been so natural between us. It’s been nothing but good vibes and fun times when we’re together. I want to know she’s going to get to where she wants to be in time. I believe in her.
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