Hi
I am 26 years of Age.i was in relationship with a girl for near about 3 years. It was 2nd relationship for both of us. She had a terrible time with the guy in her previous relationship that gave her lot of pain, physical and verbal abuse. She left that guy and we both (me and her) started. It started very well for almost 1 and half year, and then we used to have fights over silly things. But I took it as a part of a relation, which is quite normal. But things got worse.She even abused me, said things about me, my family, even my parents.i used to get hurt, but I never insulted her in the same way. She started taking things for granted, but I had a great limit of patience in me. she used to say things and then apologies, and I used to forgive her.i loved her a lot,even she loved me, and I did not want to loose her just because of her silly mistakes. I just wanted her to realize what she was doing. But she never realized. She kept on doing the same kind of things again and again ultimately being a human even I had my limits. We used to have long fights, we did not talk for weeks, but even then I never abused her verbally or physically did not want to hurt her by treating her in the same way, because I knew that unlike me she would not be able to accept that, as I did. So I had a hope that things will be fine and she just needs some time, or she needs some time to grow up.

Initially I failed to find a good job for myself, but I was doing some job in a Multinational company and she got a good job, moved to a different city. We had a long fight before she moved. when she was about to move, we met on her birthday, had a great time, spent the whole day together.but when she got to know that she going to get a job in different city,I could feel the change in her attitude. She started avoiding me, and even if we used to have fights, she never tried to make things better .I felt like she was just counting her remaining days in the city with me. Once she even said that if she gets a chance to move on with some body in the new city, then probably she will do that. I thought she was kidding or said just to make me jealous. When we were together for 3 years, we never had any issues because of any third person. She was loyal to me, and so was I.

When she moved to different city, she started avoiding me. She met some people there, became friend with them, and started avoiding me and and the relationship was almost over. Mean while, even I got a very good job, and professionally we are on the same page now. she met some guy in her office, and moved on with him.she did not tell me, I was living under the impression that, she is far from me now, away from home,surrounded by new people, so now she will realize and understand the importance of true love and our relation will be much stronger and intense than ever before. she finally told me after almost 7 months, that she was dating some one there, and eventually even that guy left her for some reasons.I was broke, I was hurt. No words can explain that. I was depressed, my health got affected, and my work got affected.

Now she is back home, we both live in the same town, I deleted all our pictures, changed my no. and distant my self from her, because I was hurt, frustrated and felt like, I was robbed. That feeling of being dumped,being left alone, being avoided, killed the human in me.Out of frustration, I even thought to call her, insult her, abuse her, but never did that. She called me when she needed me, I was there for her once again. When she got her things done, she started avoiding me once again and I felt like I have been used and thrown away.I decided not to see her ever again under any circumstances. Then all of sudden she called me, cried, apologised and said.”I have realized what I have lost. I owe you a lot, please forgive me, lets give this relation another chance.” I asked her to give me some time to think, which she did. I thought people loose their ways, and make mistakes , so I should give her another chance. I loved her a lot ,so any how I convinced my self to give her another chance. when I approached her, she again changed her mind. she said, I still love that guy(the guy she was dating when she moved to another city).I was hurt once again, felt really bad. I felt like, I have become a kind of toy, and she just plays with it, when she has no one around.I have heard people saying that its really difficult for girls to move on. but I don’t know what made it so easy for her, to move on with some guy with in weeks, after being with me for almost 3 years.she dumped me for no mistakes of mine’s .I loved her like a child, loved her when she gave me every reason not to love her. And the present status is,I am going no where. She is busy in her life; don’t know if she is going around with somebody. I feel like I am stuck.she calls me when she feels like,but if i call her,she avoids me..I know this sounds really pathetic.

I don’t know what should I do. there are people around me, and I can discuss things with them, but I really don’t want to, because I don’t want any one to say or perceive any thing negative or wrong about her or character, because somewhere I feel that we might be together once again, so I don’t want any one to treat her differently or say any inappropriate things about her. You know what I mean.I don’t want to hurt her,physically or verbally.I don’t feel like to be in a relationship with some body else, because I know I am not ready for it and i don/t want use some one to fill that empty space in my life,I know it wont be a good idea.

Please suggest me, give me some advise, how do I deal with it????
Thank you for Time.