Dear daluvafterurpain:

Better, I am thinking, no one chases anyone. You asked for her number and called her. Well done. You called again and again but she doesn’t initiate calling you. Ask her: why don’t you initiate calling me? Listen to her answer. Maybe she was taught that guys are supposed-to be the ones always initiating. If so, explain to her that it is not so, that you would like it if she initiates calling you; that you would respect her for doing so.

You texted her and she didn’t answer. Now- this is an indication, if she received the text and she is safe and healthy, that she chose to not respond, that she is not interested.

How to increase your value in a woman’s eyes? Best is not to chase her, not to express desperation, only an interest and then wait- a reasonable amount of time- for a response. Better even, contact a few women whom you may be interested in, and see who does respond to you of the few. Then take it from there.

anita