November 13, 2015 at 7:02 pm #87432
Okay. What evidence do you have again?
anitaNovember 13, 2015 at 7:03 pm #87433AnonymousInactive
Facebook, Kik, Tumblr, picture of me video of me and even my moms picture and or Facebook account! I’ll do it right now, just tell me what you want. If you have Facebook, I can friend you right now!November 13, 2015 at 7:10 pm #87434jockParticipant
None of my business perhaps but I think you’re putting too much pressure on one person here. that is Anita. She’s only human. I strongly advise you to seek other help. Sorry if this sounds unsympathetic but she has helped you a lot already. Isn’t that enough?November 13, 2015 at 7:11 pm #87435
I don’t have Facebook, Jessica, and I can’t even tell what Kik or Tumbir is … and I don’t think Facebook is proof for anything, neither are pictures there or a video.
There could be a person with the name Jessica Toussaint, the name you provided. I don’t know it is you, though.
I don’t know how to proceed from here. Maybe someone has an idea?
anitaNovember 13, 2015 at 7:12 pm #87436
* Thank you Jack.November 13, 2015 at 7:14 pm #87438AnonymousInactive
Anita, if you feel as if you dont want to help me anymore due to a lack of evidence, then I’ll respect that.November 13, 2015 at 7:16 pm #87440AnonymousInactive
We delete each other’s emails if that will make you happy. Thanks for helping me for the time that we got know each other.November 13, 2015 at 7:33 pm #87443
I can’t help doubting your existence. I wrote to you like it is. Look back at what I wrote: IF you are Jessica then you are a positively a very unique young woman. Unique in your THINKING: through all your posts and emails to me, you always pointed correctly to your mother as the one guilty, guilty of abusing you. You KNEW throughout that you are not guilty for any of the abuse inflicted upon you.
This is what is so unique about you. Never have I met an abused child, or an adult that was abused as a child, never, ever did I encounter such in person who CONSISTENTLY and always pointed the finger- correctly- at the abuser and away from themselves, the abused.
The hallmark of child abuse is that the child takes the blame, believes himself or herself to be inadequate, not good enough, somehow guilty, responsible for the abuse inflicted on him or her. And the child sees the parent in the best light (incorrectly) no matter how horrible the abuse. There is always denial and minimization of the abuse by the abused child, and later by the adult who was abused, at least at times. There is none in your posts.
This is what is so very, very one in a million unique about you.
Let me leave you with this, then: you are one in a million. Take this knowing that you are innocent of the abuse you suffer, that indeed, it is true, as you know, that your mother is guilty of abusing you, all the guilt is truly hers.
Now run with this truth= run away from her. There is nothing to hold you there. With that kind of clarity that you have, you can .. make a very good life for yourself. There is NO REASON, none whatsoever, with your clarity, to withstand one more hour, one more day in the presence of a sadistic, violent, highly abusive woman.
Take good care of yourself.
anitaNovember 24, 2015 at 12:45 pm #88237Blue WillowParticipant
I have been using this site for quite a long time now but have only joined and read through the forums today so I hope you do not mind me adding. But I really felt I had to say something. I was abused as a child and I always knew it wasn’t my fault. As a young child I was too scared to form many coherent thoughts other than those based on fear and anxiety; moving on I spent all of my teen years afraid but I always knew the abuse wasn’t my fault. I am 50 now and I still never look back and believe I was to blame. I agree what you say (Anita) about feeling inadequate though; I still do but I have learnt to understand that about myself. I have read this whole thread and, I suppose, how can any of us know who here is real. As a newcomer I just wanted to let – whoever is reading this – know that child abuse can affect people differently and I think that needs to be recognised.November 24, 2015 at 2:34 pm #88238JenniferParticipant
I think everyone here is just trying to do their best. I suggested to Jessica that she should reach out to a local group that she can talk to.