I went through my boyfriend’s phone. It’s not the first time. We dated for about a year and then we broke up. We’re back together after 3 months and I wanted to check if he has actually changed, like he says he has, or whether he is still flirting and going out for solo dinners and drinks with other women.

There’s this one beautiful woman that he works with, exactly his type, that he flirts with over text and that he keeps inviting to do things with him (like go out dancing). She always seems to cancel on him at the last minute, saying that she has to work late so maybe next time.

Anyway, I saw a text about a party that he invited her to last week. She bailed on him. He invited me the day before the party to go with him. I didn’t know he had invited her before he invited me. It seems like because she couldn’t go, he then invited me.

On the other hand, he tells me he loves me all the time and that he wants to build a live together. He also pursued me after 3 months of being apart. But something feels off. Why can’t I trust him?