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June 30, 2017 at 1:11 am #155738
jess2277Participanthi..
I feel so depressed lately..and I feel like don’t have anyone to depend on or to be trusted
Recently, I’ve decided to fade away from one of my closest friend.
I feel like she’s been so competitive with me. Anything I want to do, if she knew, she would try to get it first.
For example, if I wanna build a house, she’ll also build a house. I want to live in a farm, she’ll start her farm and finish it before I do. When I got married, she ran to sign married certificate the next day after my wedding. It makes me feel like she is not really my true friend anymore…and many things she did, always make me feel down. Also, couple of people that I’ve met always turn out to be insincere person. One of my close friend always try to sell her products to me ..instead of a common friendship talk. I lost contact most of my friends…so I cannot talk about personal stuff to them anymore..
When I’m depressed and try to talk to my husband..he became so frustrated and speak about his own problem and it makes me feel even worse..My parents are helplessness. If I try to speak out my problem to my mom, she would be hardly listening…she would just try to say that her problems is worsen than mine. My dad is undependable. He never care about anything. …..I don’t know..I feel so empty..sad and weak..June 30, 2017 at 4:48 am #155740
AnonymousGuestDear jess2277:
As the social beings that we are we need other people and we need them to see us, hear us, attend to us. What you expressed is that your father doesn’t attend to you, your mother doesn’t, neither does your husband, nor your friends. When no one sees us, it is like we don’t exist, like we are invisible. It feels “so empty..sad and weak” to be invisible, to almost not exist.
Often people are busy, so busy that they don’t see or care to see who is just in front of them. They have their problems, their anxieties, their drives, distractions… and they don’t see.
Sometimes we don’t see others who are in front of us.
Tell your husband that he is not seeing you, hearing you, that you need to be seen and heard, that your feelings matter too. Tell the friend who tries to sell you products that you are not her customer, that you don’t wish to be her customer. Ask the other friend why she follows what you are doing with doing the same as you did, repeatedly, what is her motivation?
Make yourself seen, heard, known and see, hear, get to know others. Then select the people you want in your life, have the trustworthy ones in your life, not the ones not worthy of your trust.
anita
June 30, 2017 at 5:00 am #155742jess2277ParticipantThank you anita…T T
June 30, 2017 at 5:13 am #155746AnonymousGuestYou are welcome, jess2277. Post more, anytime.
anita
June 30, 2017 at 4:27 pm #155876
MarkParticipantHi Jess,
I heard depression is a sign that you are holding on to something that you should move on from? Is there anything in your life that you can think of that might answer that question?
One good piece of advice I got was not to be around people who cause you negativity. Do you enjoy being around your best friend? If not, perhaps try to talk to her and be honest about how you feel. If she continues to make you feel bad, maybe it is time to consider taking a break or even ending the relationship.
Lately I have been happier focusing on my own self-development. If you are happy with yourself, then anything other people do won’t affect you as much. I cannot control the way other people act toward me sometimes, but I can control my own self-progress. I like to make a list of things I’d like to change or that I want to have happen and then focus on one, decide on the best first step, and then take that first step. Feel the progress, feel the hope. Try to focus on the possibilities instead of what is bothering you.
July 1, 2017 at 1:32 am #155900jess2277Participantdear Mark
Thank you so much for good advice..I’ll try to improve myself rather than stucking with those negative thoughts…but sometime my mind is just so doom…it keep bringing back those hurtful feeling in the past and sometime I’m too weak to resist especially when I find no one to rely on.July 1, 2017 at 8:55 am #155922
AprilParticipantJess I came across your post and I nearly cried when I read it! I have been feeling exactly like you and soooo alone and invisible! When I read your post I finally felt like I was a real person. Like what I was feeling was real. You expressed so well what I’ve been having trouble expressing. What I was afraid to express. I have tried in the past to express myself to the people in my life and it always end with me feeling worse. I hear you! Wherever you are I’m walking the same path with you and struggling with the same feelings. You are not invisible!!! Keep telling yourself you are a unique and beautiful person! If you feel the need to reach out to someone and share who you are and know that your identity will be safe and valued reach out here. I need a friend. I will listen sister! PEACE
July 2, 2017 at 6:07 am #155966jess2277ParticipantDear April
Thank you very much for your message. Saying that you can share my feeling almost make me cry too…Actually I’ve cried fews days ago and it made me feel a little bit better. It’s just a lots better when at least someone acknowledge that I’m sad and try to supporting me. I’ll try to find my way out of this dark moment…and try to get up again..And I hope you will too April..Thank you for taking your time to read my message and say something.
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