Damn……sad story i have the same i have 2 sisters and thank god 1 brother my older sister stoped bulliying me …..but my little sis is killin me………i hate this i mean shes my cousin

I can relate to you. I also don’t like my sisters. I probably don’t hate them, but for sure I don’t like them most times. And that’s the thing with family is that you can’t really decide to leave them. You just kind of have to deal with them. I am also the middle child, and I have two sisters. Six years ago, they ganged up on me and decided to exclude me from their circle. I did not talk to them for six years! I was really hurt that they would gang up on me for petty jealousy reasons and leave me out. They were family, and I sometimes acted different from them, but it doesn’t mean they should abandon me. Anyways, I lived my life on my own with friends and my dad, and raised my kid on my own for six whole years. I was pretty happy. I didn’t have to deal with the petty rivalries that sisters push onto eachother just because they can.

My dad forced a reconciliation about a year and a half ago, and I had to start talking to them again one Christmas. IT was hard. But in a way I guess it was needed, because you can’t get rid of them…all my time apart from my sisters had shown me that people need to have boundaries. You need to her that you are your own person, and that you respect her as a family member, but she can’t have any control over you. She needs to grow up and stop being competitive/jealous, and you can’t do that for her, the only thing you can do is make your life simpler and take care of yourself. If you find a way to put distance between you and her, you will find a more peaceful life, even if it means you only see her a couple times a year. That’s how I cope. hope that helps.

POPI

What you need to do is cut these negative people out of your life. I am an HSP person and have tried so hard all my life to manage my own expectations and others. Now that I am 42… I have finally realized it was all a huge waste of time a big joke on me. Most everyone in this world just demands things from us and everyone around them… When was the last time you heard someone around you thinking about what they were asking of someone else as a problem… Probably never… Everyone is about themselves, their desires… You are probably like me feeling guilty about not being nice… Well I have to tell you I have been doing that for fourty years and it’s gotten me no where… I am no better off than the guy that doesn’t care if he makes people mad or not. My single parent sister pushes her kid on me constantly and her and my mom make me feel bad when I don’t want to take care of the kid all day long… It’s all the same thing… It’s rude ignorant people taking advantage of US! POPI – tell these people to go to hell! They don’t respect us and push us all the time – we are sensitive and nice and helpful and all they do is crap on us. We need to fight back – protect yourself and unlearn – the thoughts that make you feel guilty. We are good people that are being abused by selfish people. Fight back be assertive and tell these rude family members to get off our backs! If you don’t feel good about #1 how can you help anyone else. That’s my new view – get the hell out of my face unless you going to be nice to me… My time is valuable and back the hell off unless you are going to be kind to me. Most people are just pushing us around using us because we are nice. Enough is enough, back off, and cut them off, they can deal with their own filth without you. You have to do what you do to protect yourself – you need to look out for #1 – don’t feel guilty – protect yourself because they are vampires and will demand more and more of you because they are weak people.

Sincerely,
Matt

Guys help. My sister is a complete nightmare to be with. She is younger then me and still seems to be controlling my life. For example, if I am singing a song I know but havnt completely memorized then she’ll call me out on it. So annoying. And for example this morning, we got s new door with a padlock so she was trying it. That was okay, until she started doing it over and over again. So I told her to maybe stop in a nice way so that she wouldn’t break the door. But she just said “back the hell away from me *mom” i couldn’t believe it. She is rude, inconsiderate, and totally annoying to be around. She only cares about herself and doesn’t feel like listening to anybody. She cheats and lies and makes me feel alone. Whenever I ask to play with her she says no and walks away. I want nothing to do with this girl who suddenly thinks she knows best. She tells me in wrong when I’m right. She tried to cry to mom and dad to cover up her footsteps, and my parents are totally fooled. They don’t believe me about anything anymore. My sister is ruining my life and I am so happy to be going 5o college soon. But I don’t know how to ignore her. Since my parents think she’s all sunshine and rainbows they make me hangout with her when I don’t want to. They don’t know how annoying and heartbreaking it is to be her sister.

How do I ignore her?

Dear Caoilainn:

You are not an adult yet, I understand. As soon as you are an adult and able, you can move out and live away from your sister. At that time, not too long from now, I hope, you will be able to not be in your sister’s presence. You can choose then to not have any contact with her.

Until then, minimize your contact with her, have as little as possible interactions with her and about her, that is, don’t talk to your parents about her. Withdraw from your sister best you can.

Hang in there and keep in mind that this situation is not forever. What a relief this is, isn’t it… that one day not too far in the future, you will not have to live with or have anything at all to do with a person you dislike so much.

anita