Dear janet:

I read all your posts in your previous threads as well as the above. Two years and eight months into the relationship with this man, you wrote: “He is a good man with a kind heart.” That is a lot of time that you had with him, including the initial 9 months (or so) that you lived with him, so I find some validity in your ability to evaluate him as a “good man with a kind heart.”

On the other hand, on this post, you wrote: ” he is so caniving and manipulating with words. He’s a true narcissist.”- so he is no longer a good man with a kind heart?

From my reading of your posts, this relationship was chaotic and troubled for most of the time, lots of arguments and fighting. I was impressed at one point when you wrote about his 8/ 9 year old needing a safe home, but with his father and you arguing and fighting, and on an ongoing basis, how could this child have a safe home?

I think that it is a good idea for you to let go because this relationship, throughout, has been a Lose-Lose-Lose proposition- lose to all the parties involved.

anita