I Just Want To Be Found

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May 17, 2013 at 1:50 pm #35813

Marilyn Briant-Rockmore
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Hello Laura,

I believe all cries for help, are cries for love. Not love from another person, but from ourselves, for ourselves. You have asked the question can love be learned and my answer is yes. It seems to me we cannot love another until we know and love ourselves, and then, only then when we love ourselves can we truly love someone else.
I think your boyfriend has helped you to know yourself, and the next part is up to you. I am sure you do not need to deny the past, but accept it – accept the mistakes you made and learn from them, about yourself. A spiritual journey is always a journey inside ourselves.

As someone who spent many years looking for love outside of myself, I know you are strong enough and wise enough to inside and find and love the real you.

Love and peace,

Marilyn

May 18, 2013 at 1:52 am #35829

Adam
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Hi Laura

Recently I experienced something similar to what you went through. I got into a long distance relationship over the internet and we ended up living together. A lot of my demons came up and really interfered with the relationship. I went through some very rough patches in my past relationships where I was cheated on repeatedly, lied to and hurt. I went through a deep depression that I never received treatment for. I ended up cheating on my current ex. I shouldn’t have done it but i’ve reconciled that part of my life.
I used to think that I was in love yet at times I wasn’t sure. The problem was, I never really knew myself or allowed me to be myself. That all stemmed from my past and it took a pretty drastic event to realise that.
I can understand where you are coming from. Each person comes into our lives to teach us something about ourselves.

June 12, 2013 at 7:30 am #36793

Laura
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Hello Marilyn and Adam,

I must admit that I felt so good after releasing this pain that I forgot to check back for any responses.

Thank you so so much, your words have helped me.

I am still struggling with my relationship. I am trying to heal myself so I can heal us.
I truly hope that I will look back on this one day and feel that it has caused me to grow.

Thank you for your insight x

June 12, 2013 at 11:34 am #36801

Jade
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What you said here stuck out to me: “He is my everything, and I have lost myself in this relationship; but I would rather lose myself in him than be lost in a dangerous internet world.” Being lost as a girlfriend or being lost in random relationships are not the only two choices available to you! Maybe to be found, you need to take a different path than the two you’ve presented.

Final thought: in my personal experience, if your answer to “am I/was I in love” is “I’m not sure”? The actual answer is no. Real love has a certainty to it that is hard to ignore, and I’m sure in time you will find it, both within you and outside you.

July 21, 2020 at 9:06 am #362273

Anonymous
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Laura

Did you end up being found ?
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