Dear Name:

You are someone. Learn who that someone is, the little things, as you go about your day, learn about yourself anything you can learn: how you feel about this or that, what you value and what you do not value? What do you like about other people’s behaviors and what do you dislike (Most likely you like and dislike the same things about yourself as you do in others)?

What color do you like? Do you like the ocean? The dessert? What excites you? What bores you?

What is your name and what name would you like instead?

Before embarking on a grand task as to influence people and lead people, learn the small things about yourself. Nothing really, is to small to learn.

anita

anita

Dear Name,

I feel exactly the same. I want to improve my social skills, i want to know what kind of job i want. I want to enhance myself into the person i want to be. But each time when its up to me, i just give up and focus on something pointless like entertainment to ignore the fact to deal with the situation.

It just feels like there is so much to improve that its an endless task. Even when its a small improvement it just doesnt feel like enough for me to turn into the person i want to be

Just wanted you to know you’re not alone

You need to start somewhere and it seems you have somewhat a starting point in that you have a list of possible questions that you want to answer and some things you want, you just don’t know how to get answers. You should also think about where you want to be and what you see yourself doing later down the road. From there start researching the great people who like you wanted what you want and got, those who succeeded. History is full of these people, you don’t have to look far research these people and most have written memoirs, how to books, or have biographies. These people exist today, and of course I am saying to look at the super achievers, but you don’t have just look at them. Find the every day people that doing what you want to be doing, if you don’t know what you want to be doing then research and talk to people doing various things find out what their lives are. The internet has information on everything, and it is easy to find community boards of these people just like tinybuddha where they talk about their “stuff” and most of them love to help people interested in what they do. Maybe there is even someone local that would be willing to talk to you.

Name and Jerome – you’ve received some brilliant advice on here! I personally love the idea of learning what your joys (small things) are – that’s one of the surest ways to finding your purpose.

However, if you’re interested, I have a coaching session called Discover Your Dharma – the 7 Step Path to Your Purpose. Check it out and see if this is for you – http://www.nestintheforest.com/discover-your-dharma/

Namaste,
Saiisha