I recently started seeing a past situation 3 weeks ago. Background on our relationship: we met at a time where I was the most physically, spiritually and mentally secure in myself. I had seen him everywhere and there was always an energy that attracted me to him (Maybe because we’re both scorpios?). Our relationship in the past was a no strings attached fb type of relationship, but internally I wanted it to be more. Leading up to the end of our first cycle we told each other we liked each other, but the main issue was that he never changed the way he acted towards me after confessing that we liked each other. Which was detached, and passive about the whole thing… not to mention he was still getting over a heartbreak. so I ended things, told him I had abandonment issues, and he never replied (ghosted me for 2 yrs) . skip two years later and an ig follow three weeks ago we reconnect again and begin where we left off which is occasionally hooking up. This time I tell him I want a relationship, but I’m not sure if it should be with him so we agree to take it slow. Again we get to this place where we both acknowledge that we like each other, but I feels like I’m pulling the relationship, and he’s just there responding. Recently his grandfather died, and he became even more distant than before so I address it by acknowledging he is going through a very tough time but I need attention, and this relationship feels stagnant. He said he understands that I need more attention, but he’s not sure he can give that to me now… then asks for space. Thanks me for understanding and stops talking to me, but is on social media communicating with everyone else. I feel a little bit lost and frustrated, because I really like him. He is open, kind, present, emotionally mature… but there are the qualities I  do not like. The passivity, and apathy that I feel whenever I’ve said ‘hey I kinda feel like leaving’ he just says ok, like I am not a factor in his life. I’m split between thinking that I’m in this because I don’t want to be alone, or I really want to stay grow and learn to love him. I’m also scared that “I need space” is the prelim to the end of this short lived reunion.  I don’t know it all sucks, I’m not even sure what I mean by “I like him” if its just attachment to the idea of him or him as a person who can challenge me and help me grow individually.