I need a bit of advice about dating someone i have previously went on two dates with a year and a half ago. First off, i will tell you the whole story. I will shorten it so dont worry. I have been in two relationships in my lifetime so far. One lasted 6 years and he dumped me because of another girl. So after that I was devastated. Went on a binder and did some online dating. I was surprised with how many guys there were that wanted to go on a date with me. I ended up going on dates with three of them. I will skip the first one i went on a date with but the second one lets call him Steve, was fun. We went on a couple dates and had a lot in common had a great time. On the second date I may have drank a little too much. We started to make out and I initiated having sex but he didn’t want to out of respect for me. I thought that was nice but was horrified with how drunk I got. Didn’t think he would call me again. Well later that night, he texted me he that he got home okay and that he wanted to have another date. At the same time I had meet another guy who we also had much in common, lets call him Matt. I thought why not im single, let me go on a date with this guy. He was really sweet and we seemed to hit it off. Now I had to decided to between the two. I wanted to do a third date with Steve but he reminded me of my ex and due to me being afraid of being hurt again, I kept putting our third date off and he was getting frustrated with me. I told him that it was me i have a busy life and he decided to pursue other people while I stayed with the other guy. Steve did say he was disappointed it didnt work out beause he liked me. I played it safe and stayed with Steve who was quiet and didn’t drink much and didn’t have a relationship before. I knew he wouldnt hurt me and stay loyal. Don’t get me wrong he was a really good guy and things were great in the beginning but as the months went by, he just became a miserable person. He hated everything and wouldn’t communicate with me. It was very draining and I only could help him so much. During our relationship, I kept thinking about the other guy I went on dates before my current relationship and that I made the wrong choice. I would also have vivid dreams of him and would wake up feeling happy. In May of this year, my boyfriend at the time, Matt, had told me he is moving to West Virginia to be with his family and that he is leaving tomorrow. He had known this information for months and only told me the day before. So we ended things. We lasted a little over a year. I decided to stay single a little bit because after my six year relationship I didn’t give myself enough time for me. I went on the dating sites a week after he dumped me, the one i was with for 6 years. Now i have been thinking about Steve alot. And because i signed up for match.com a year ago, i still get my daily matches through email. So i started looking at them again and what do you know, Steve is one of my matches. Apparently he is still single and is on match.com. Steve did contact me last april 2014 to wish me happy birthday. Before that, i hadnt talked to him in over a month and i got the happy birthday text out of no where. What made me surprised was he actually remembered. He also wanted to take me out again. I said sure even though i had been with Matt. I thought about it and decided it wasnt right. So not to hurt Steve, i told him i was getting root canal the time he wanted to take me out and we should we reschedule. I actually did get root canal that day. Steve had texted me that he hoped my root canal went well and i never texted him back. That was the last time i spoke to him. I thought i would pursue Steve again. He is single and isnt seeing anyone. I still have his number also. I just dont know how to go about it. I feel bad i blew him off but at the time i didnt know what i wanted. I stayed with Matt mainly because i wanted companionship and i was still hurt by the last relationship. I didnt want another guy that could hurt me. My life is in order and i feel like i know what i want and i am more mature now for dating. How would i go about asking him out? Should i apologize for what happened to us before? I just hope i didnt screw any chance of anything in the future. I appreciate the advice guys so much!!