Dear Shandrea:

Congratulations for starting a new thread. The quotes below include the new thread.

“Anita I am really doing my best“- I know, and for that, you are amazing!

“I don’t ask anyone for anything… I am here for support I don’t think I received much growing up but now that I’m a parent I know It’s ok to ask for help“- doing your best includes asking for help and support when you need it.

“It is hard for me to communicate with my relatives, they don’t understand me…  Can I come here and share my challenges with you until I find a job that works for me and my kid“- of course you can come here and share your challenged: anytime!

“I been applying for work from home jobs it’s either I’m not qualified or I don’t have the equipment. I am here for support“- I read Helcat’s valuable reply on your new thread and I believe that I wouldn’t be able to do a go-fund-me, to study online for a job, or to work from home using a computer because of my technical/ computer illiteracy (beyond the very simple use here), and resistance to try to learn because of my lifelong learning disabilities/ ADD. I don’t think that I am able to learn to use the computer in elaborate ways.

I don’t even know what equipment means in “it’s either I’m not qualified or I don’t have the equipment“. I can hardly use my phone to make calls (I am not kidding, sometimes I can’t). And so, I am not able to advise you on anything technical/ computer-related.

* My learning disabilities are the reason why every so often, the meaning of a word I read and used hundreds of times eludes me, it becomes vague, meaningless, and so, I have to google it. You shared before that you google everything: I wonder why you do..?

I am not replying in your new thread because I am hoping that you will communicate there with Helcat, and maybe with others, regarding technical/ computer things that I don’t understand.

anita

Dear Shandrea:

“I was never called a hero before this website“- it was about time then, that someone would spell out the truth!

“Maybe I do have a disability. I still want to accomplish my goals of paying my bills and being able to afford activities. I am stressed a lot. But I have accomplished so much, if I do have a disability I can still do it“- (1) ongoing stress is indeed disabling, temporarily or permanently. We are less likely to think rationally and act effectively when under the influence of heightened stress, (2) all of us humans are disabled to one extent or another, in some way or another,  some more acutely and noticeably than others, (3) I very much like your attitude, and yes, you have accomplished so much already, and you can accomplish more!

“I didn’t know you had a learning disability /ADD, I do not look for flaws in others, I have flaws of my own“- thank you for trying to make me feel better about my learning disabilities and ADD. At this point, I don’t feel badly (shame or guilt) for these, only empathy for myself. I think of these as Facts, not Faults.

Without the ongoing crushing stress involved in feeling shame and guilt, I function better.

“A while back did you say you were a teacher? What grade did you teach? With the learning disability how did you become a teacher?“- middle and high schools. When I was a student, I remember that I wasn’t  able to follow one professor’s lectures at all because she talked too fast and not in an organized way. To pass her tests, I copied information from the textbook assigned to her course, re-organize it, and then re-organize it again, and again,  until I was able to understand it. Shortly after the test, I ‘d forget almost everything. Another teacher’s lectures were slow and organized, and I was able to take notes while she lectured. But regardless, I’d forget almost everything I memorized after the tests.

As a full-time teacher (for a couple years only), I taught in a school were most students spoke very little English, so my little knowledge on the subject matter was not challenged. I prepared for a lesson by reading and studying a chapter from the textbook, then taught it the next day (I was good at simplifying the subject-matter and presenting it in an organized way), then read the next chapter, and teach that the day after, etc.

anita

You are a good person, Shandrea, and asking for help- in an honest and straightforward way- is a good thing!

anita

Dear Shandrea:

You have been honest here, never a hint of dishonesty. You are welcome, Shandrea, and thank you for saying that I am a good person. I guess we are both good people! (I will soon be away from the computer for the rest of the day). I hope that you have a relaxing Sat, the kind of a day that a good person deserves!

anita

You are welcome, Shandrea, and thank you! Talk to you later!

anita

Dear Shandrea:

I am sorry to see that you deleted your account, anytime you want to come back (under a different account, please do!

anita