March 8, 2020 at 8:49 am #342244FelixParticipant
So basically i’m really tired right now on finding love, you can see from my previous threads it’s all mostly about love. I’m done putting too much effort and thinking too much. Right now i’m still not chasing anyone as i dont know who to crush on. So lately i’ve been asking my friend to introduce me to one of his friends that i find attractive. It’s a girl that he knows, but he’s not close so its a bit difficult for him to ask her to hangout, and introduce her to me. And i’ve always been texting him to beg so that he’ll find a way so i can meet her but he has his own priority and doesnt really concern about me. Then i’m also a person who easily just talk to someone that i know well (whom i have a bit trust) about my problems, and when they hear about my problems they just give me advice but not really concern about me. I know this is wrong, to always rely on people to talk with whenever i have problems, after talking with them i feel better but then after finished talking it’ll all be meaningless to me. Is it because i am a hard headed person? After realizing most people that wont fully support me in terms of introducing me to girls, giving advice, understands me… i’m really done right now. Every thing i did was to realize my dream to be in a relationship but i’m tired and i’ll just do everything i wanna do now, even if its my boring activities that wont lead me to meeting new girls that i might attracted to… i’m tired already. I used to hate myself for having a short height but right now i have matured and i accepted who i am and i feel grateful for it, and some reason for me accepting myself is because of this website and im thankful for anyone who have replied me before. And from the replies from my previous threads i realize that being rejected by girls doesnt mean that im wrong, its just that i havent found the one, but i always felt that why a person like me who does so much effort on this.. never gets a single girl? Is it because this world hates me? I’ve always hang out with the same group of people for the past few years, and i havent met anyone new so i guess its hopeless… But i’ll just let fate decides me… even if fate wants me to stay single forever.
FelixMarch 8, 2020 at 9:03 am #342246anitaParticipant
I am pleased and glad to read the following: “I used to hate myself for having a short height but right now I have matured and accepted who I am and I feel grateful for it”.
I will add this: the process of maturing and accepting oneself takes time, what you expressed above is the beginning of this process. Thoughts and feelings from before will return, so remind yourself of your intent to mature and accept who you are!
And regarding: “some reason for me accepting myself is because of this website and I’m thankful for anyone who have replied me before”- you are welcome.
Regarding your announcement that you are done looking for love- great idea, to take a break (for how long it lasts) from looking for a girlfriend, excellent idea- relax in this break. Relaxing (as opposed to being anxious, desperate, distressed) will lead you to more mental clarity and behaviors that will benefit you.