I’m quite nervous to put up this post since I’m just a newbie. I bumped into this page when i searched ‘moving on’ in google. That’s what i direly need advice on. I’ve decided to leave a relationship that i think no longer serves me happiness. I’ll detail my problem in points to give you an easy time 🙂

1. I’m 22 and he’s 25. We’ve been in a relationship for exactly 2 years, 8 months now. In that long period, we’ve had several break ups, mostly lasting to a week and then making up afterwards. The longest break-up we had was a month (May this year). Since May, things have been different. We got back together but the norm has never been restored. We noticed the change in how we related but still went ahead and tried to ‘make it work’. I’m tired of going back and forth.

2. The change, after May, was lack of trust. After May he didn’t really trust anything i said/did. As much as i would maintain my loyalty, he would still question my ways. Many times even when i hang out with my friends, he would ask why, why i didn’t tell him, why someone is taking me out for lunch…bla bla…he became this jealous guy; something he (maybe) kept on the low earlier in the relationship.

3. The guy knows ALL my family members!! He hangs out with them and they’ve accepted him as he is. Immediately i got into this relationship, i was so happy and proud of whatever we had become. I made sure each of my friends knew that i was ‘take’, and even those that were still ‘eyeing’ me, i made sure that they respected that. Him on the other end has never (for that long period) introduced me to his family/friends. I have never met his siblings (although only in few occasions in the beginning where he introduced me as a friend). This issue has been bugging me a lot so some few weeks ago i raised it and needed answers and not excuses. He told me that he’s waiting for for me to graduate in June next year for him to introduce me to his family. This really came to me as a surprise mainly because i have been nothing but faithful and knowing his special people would mean a lot to me. It also raised several questions like What don’t i have that is needed for the introductions to be effected? Why I’m i being kept a secret from them? Is he experimenting with me ?? I didn’t want to be introduced as a wife-to-be or anything or the sort, i just wanted to at least know who his strongholds are, and just have peace of mind. THIS IS ACTUALLY MY MAJOR ISSUE…this long, and i still know no one from your side, RED FLAG!!!

4. He’s that kind of person who goes ahead on social media to post nasty words (indirectly) after any breakup or when we get into a fight. He says they are not meant for me but I’m not that dumb to believe him. We have talked so many times and agreed that whenever we have an issue, social media should be the last avenue to vent.

5. The last straw of these was when he recently, through a mutual friend who works at a famous telecommunications company, downloaded some of my calls and texts with other people whom he thinks I’m cheating on him with. I gave him my texts and call log to check everything since i had nothing to hide. He’s been snooping around my phone hoping to get something suspicious. THIS made me so mad and i feel like if i keep putting my strength in this relationship, i will end up being hurt. I mean, if he doesn’t trust me by now then there’s no way he’s gonna trust me in future. I also wonder, if someone is busy being insecure, chances are high that there is something that they are doing in secret and are afraid to be caught.

I couldn’t write all things here…but for the few ‘burning’ ones, i need help/advice. Thanks in Advance