I'm lost in this relationship…

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    Hello! Hope all is well with you guys! 🙂

    I have a small problem, and I have been wondering if I should talk to him about it.

    Brief history of our past: We dated for 2 months, and he asked to be exclusive. One day I wanted to talk to him about something important, he knew what it was, but ditched me for his friends, and his attitude afterwards also changed completely, too basically an asshole. So I thought about it, and decided that I don’t deserved to be treated that way. So I talked to him, and told him that I can’t keep seeing him like this, and we can be friends. Which at this point I thought he would never contact me again. Couple days later, he sends me a text. and we chatted a little, but at one point it got weird where he would just send me random messages, or sends a me, “hey, whats up? what are you doing?” and I would reply, but he would never answer back, then he next day, sends me a random text about something. He asked me to go see a movie with him, which i did. Because I was also planning on going to see it. Week after he still contacts me with random texts. then the following weekend to go have lunch with him. Then after though… his texts got short an a bit rude.. although sometimes text messages are usually hard to interpret.

    So, I concluded that the guy, if he wasn’t still interested in me, who wouldn’t bother contacting me.
    But what I’m side tracked about is the rudeness of the text messages…. Because ever since I wanted to talk to him about something important, he has been acting completely strange… like literally a 180 degree change in character.

    So… any advice about this? I was also thinking, maybe I should not reply to his messages so often?
    Sorry… I just really don’t understand this.

    Thank you, and have a lovely day! 🙂


    Hi Jessica,

    All kinds of questions pop into my mind when reading your message. Like: how old are you guys? What was the important thing to talk about? But then I realized that the details don’t really matter and what i’d like to say to you is just this: don’t let your happiness depend on someone else. Take responsibility for your own happiness. Like you said: you don’t deserve to be treated this way. And to say it in a more positive way: you deserve better! You are worth much more!

    Let it go. Choose to do things that make you happy instead of trying to interpret text messages.

    Good luck Jessica!


    Hi Jessica

    What relationship?? there is nothing really there to point out the fact…so start having a relationship with someone credible as he for sure has no credibility.

    Right now he is conditioning you and you are falling for it. your actions are speaking louder than your words so start aligning them and mean what you say and he will start believing…

    All the best


    Thank you for your reply.

    I think, I will let him go. I have never been a in relationship before, so I’m not sure what he is doing. Which is why this is confusing me. But yes, I do deserve better! 🙂

    Thank you!


    Yes, I see your point about the not being a relationship.

    I’ve never dated in my life, and he is the first… So i’m not sure what it means to be credible, or him conditioning? I really do not understand. if its not to much trouble, would you be able to clarify?

    Thank you!

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