Hello,
I have been with a boy for 8 months. We have had a couple of ups and downs, largely due to his career being so consuming and demanding on his time, he breaks promises and lets me down allot, its not deliberate but can be hurtful. On the whole however we really connect and I know he feels allot for me.
Recently I asked what he wanted from this, that after 8 months I need to know if this is going anywhere because if it isn’t then we can’t see each other romantically anymore as I am starting to get in deep.
He said he had thought about making me his girlfriend allot, that he has feelings for me and that all his fiends like me too. He just is a bit freaked out by the idea of having a girlfriend as another commitment because of his demanding career. I said I understand his career is demanding and that I wouldn’t want to get in the way of that, I just need some security in our situation.
– He doesn’t want to make me his girlfriend, not have any time and for me to end up hating him.
So he asked to think about it which I agreed to.

He said that evening while we talked that he wanted to take me on a special date, for me to get dressed up and go somewhere nice. I was really looking forward to it all week but it however didn’t happen as he had to have drinks with his work friends and we didn’t end up meeting until very late that evening.
Since then I have messaged him, he hasn’t replied and has gone away for a week with no word to me.

Its been 3 days and only silence from him. I am worried he has freaked out and I will never hear from him again.