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    Sol
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    Hello everyone, this is my first post. I’m having a difficult time at work, the question is, to leave the job or not?

    To leave – The job is hard, I lack self-confidence, I get easily stressed and then shout and become angry at my family who are also immensely stressed. When I do feel up for the challenge an argument in the house leaves me crying and shaking and even more unable to face job. Maybe I can be the happy loving Mum they remember and can save the marriage/son from the verbal abuse that started mid lockdown and has a caused a massive change in his behaviour. Job is not what I want to do forever (youth worker with much ambiguity and high targets), although it is a sweet job with a great team if I had the headspace and the confidence for it. What I really want to do is start my own business.

    To stay – It’s a pandemic. I have no back up job and only one month’s wages saved (although my husband thinks I’ll be fine as an ebay seller as he brings home lots of stuff from clearances at work). I feel like it’s a challenge set from the Universe in order for me to grow and rise up to the challenge and if I leave I still have to face this challenge. I have faced a similar challenge in my last job, wobbled, rose to the challenge, LOVED my job, felt confident in my role and then left because the employer wasn’t putting the client first. This job was easier in the respect that all my clients lived in four particular places and I had a particular space to run activities from so my clients were easily found and all I had to do was run the (mostly fun) sessions. Now I have to recruit these clients from all over the borough, and there is no set location to run sessions, and the sessions are more independent living skills and less fun. When I found my present job it was like all my Universal wishes had been granted (exact office I wanted, closer to my home, better internet, favourite school Mum and old University friend in one of my offices, lost of hippyish staff like me) so I feel like I ordered this exact job to my specific requirements, to what I thought I wanted. (Now I see I want to work even closer to home, have much less stress, and I don’t like the ambiguity of what my job entails, the greyness, I like to know what I am meant to be doing. I think when I run my own business it won’t be as grey as it will be MY vision, and there won’t be worrisome targets.

    So far – yesterday I all but handed my notice in and I felt so light. Then I encountered lots of posts on facebook about imposter syndrome, courses and movies on anxiety, free mental health support, it felt like signs to give it my best shot at work before leaving, and this is how I felt when I woke up this morning, to try and rise to the challenge and give it my best shot. I was looking up confidence and self-belief and resilience training out of the way of the family this morning, and they had an argument about eating breakfast/putting on socks that was so crazy I still ended up crying and shook and then underprepared and not ready to face work today. Wondering whether I should just focus on peace and family and planning new business.

    Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated thank you.

    #363743
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Sol:

    It is okay to quit your job in the middle of a pandemic when that’s what it takes to survive the pandemic! Within your family unit, you, your husband and your son need to survive the pandemic with minimal mental health damage. Minimizing everyone’s stress is what it takes to minimizing mental health damage.

    When you wrote: “The job is hard.. I get easily stressed and then shout and become angry at my family wo are also immensely stressed.. Maybe I can be the happy loving Mum they remember and can save the marriage/ son from the verbal abuse that started mid lockdown and has caused a massive change in his behaviour”- I didn’t need to read further to know for sure that you should quit the job ASAP.

    It is never a good thing to keep a job that involves verbally abusing your son and your husband!!!

    I didn’t need to read the rest of your post for the purpose of answering your question, but I did. Reads to me that this is what stresses you most about the job: “much ambiguity.. I don’t like the ambiguity of what the job entails, the greyness, I like to know what I am meant to be doing”- having a clear job description, a certainty and predictability, is like standing on solid ground; an ambiguous job description is like standing on shaky ground: you are scared of taking the next step and falling. Different people have different tolerance levels to ambiguity, but most people, if not all, are anxious when in an ambiguous situation.

    “I think when I run my own business it won’t be as grey”- true, because you are very motivated to have that solid ground, so you will see to it that it will be as solid as possible.

    “yesterday I all but handed my notice in and I felt so light. Then I encountered lots of posts on Facebook.. it felt like signs to give it my best shot at work before leaving”- there is no such thing as signs sent by a god through Facebook! That’s magical thinking, not realistic thinking.

    I highly recommend that you give your notice as soon as possible, today or tomorrow, depending on your time zone. Not because this post is .. a sign that you should, but because of the simple logic and truth that it is never, never okay to verbally abuse your son, or your husband, and therefore, you need to take every measure possible to stop that behavior!

    anita

     

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