Hello lovelies,

I have recently been dumped by my first love, of two years. While things were never perfect, as no relationship is, I thought for sure we were right for each other. He was never afraid to voice his opinions on getting married and we always agreed on where we saw ourselves in the future.

About a month and a half ago, after an argument about my insecurities, he told me we both needed a month or two of space because we were obviously stressed out. We were still in a relationship, just taking a breather from each other. Me, always wanting to fix things, continued to reach out to him until he called it quits. I didn’t give him the space he needed during this break, so he continued to feel pressured and stressed, causing him to end it for good.

When he broke up with me, we told each other that we loved each other and he said he meant it when he said he wanted to marry me, but that he needs to support himself right now and cannot do that when I am constantly asking for his support emotionally (due to my insecurities). He said we need to be healthy as individuals first before we can be in a relationship.

We have not been in contact since then, and he has blocked me on Twitter, but no other forms of social media. I am thankful, because I know this is a great chance for me to work on my insecurities and to be independent.

However, I cannot tell if the breakup was just an excuse to bail because he doesn’t want to be with me, or if he really does want us to work on ourselves and come back together in the future. I’d think that if he really cared for me, he would check in, but I’m not sure. I need some outside perspectives, please!

Is this just false hope, or is it something worth hoping for?

Thank you always,

BubblyEm